Agreed. I don't think anyone should be shamed for making the decision to fake. I like to share that perspective because I think it's a powerful one. We're responding to pressure and false notions, but continuing to perpetuate the paradigm that women are broken unless they orgasm. It's not solely women's responsibility…

Yes! We can all be thoughtful and willing partners without taking responsibility for the other person's orgasm.

Thank you for saying that! Most men and women don't know about that statistic. I like to tell women that faking an orgasm damages not only yourself, but the women around you too. Too many men think they've made all of their female partners orgasm from penetration alone, which leads to the awful dynamic you described…

Thank you for sharing that! Most men and women don't know that statistic. That's why I think faking orgasm damages not only yourself, but the women who come after you. Too many men believe every women they've been with has orgasmed, which leads to the awful pattern you described above.

You're very welcome!

Yep, it's definitely tricky! I've worked with parents to get really creative and take advantage of extracurricular activities, play dates, baby sitters, etc. Even if its not possible to find the time before bedtime, you can still make some big changes by touching each other and being more affectionate throughout the…

That's a great idea! Love it!

Relaxing the butt muscles helps too!

Only do the things that actually matter to you!

It doesn't need to be anything wacky or crazy. Sometimes something as simple as adjusting the angle of your leg while in an old stand-by sex position can be a revelation. I think what's most important is being intentional about making an effort. I run into a lot of people who think your sex life is not something that…

"Try new things constantly and often" works in the context of your sex life too! It's easier to find the motivation to have more frequent sex when the sex you're having is exciting, novel, and engaging.

Well you, sir, win at the internet!

I do a lot of premarital counseling and I can attest to the mental anguish that comes along with being a modern-day bride. It's horrific. And not only does it make women feel terrible about themselves, but it pulls couples apart in the months before they're set to make such a powerful commitment to each other. Save…

Cosmo sex advice is always laughably terrible, but this is some next-level bull. It's really not that hard to give good sex advice! I don't understand why they always mess up! Thanks Jason and whoever did all the GIFs... I just cried from laughing so hard.

Hi SoCalGeek,

Hey Soupspa,

Hey Timgray,

Great, thanks for letting me know! This is a pretty common experience. There's nothing wrong with you, but I can give you a few tips for working around this pattern. Here are a few suggestions:

Oh, and I have much more in-depth guides for oral sex for those who are interested!

Hi Seanrob,