Same. I was born in the US, but haven’t lived there for quite some time now. The mental healthcare I get in the EU might be stigmatized, it might make people judge me, but I can afford it. It’s a start.

I’m shocked, shocked, shocked that someone who wrote articles like he did and clearly looked down on other people turned out to be someone who was bigoted.

I was thinking about this, too. I had a pretty miserable time in middle school,with having my hair pulled, belongings stolen, getting locked into bathrooms and lockers, people mocking everything I said, etc., and I cannot imagine this having any effect on the people who were mean to me.

I, someone who is not Asian, was friends with some girls who spoke Cantonese. One night, while we were drinking, I recalled a phrase that I thought was evocative and interesting: that Chinese sounded like silverware bouncing down stairs.

I felt the same. I used to volunteer for a rape and abuse crisis line, and I was also assaulted. I’m in a place where I can talk about it, and say that I’ve heard so many stories just like mine, and I can make a nod to the magnitude of it all without having to out anyone else. I wrote a huge thing, talking about what…

I felt the same. I used to volunteer for a rape and abuse crisis line, and I was also assaulted. I’m in a place where I can talk about it, and say that I’ve heard so many stories just like mine, and I can make a nod to the magnitude of it all without having to out anyone else. I wrote a huge thing, talking about what…

Oh, thank you! :) Honestly, I am very happy with the way things are, and my FWBs and family and other friends make me feel so loved that sometimes that I could burst with it, so you’ll hear no complaints from me!

I actually really like long-distance relationships. I am not interested in marriage, living together, children, or even a boyfriend/girlfriend. I maintain multiple FWB-esque relationships for a long time (2 - 6 years, so far), and I like it when we just get to spend a few days to a week together a few times a year. It…

I don’t think I’ve ever ghosted someone (at least, not on purpose: there were times of mutual disinterest that just never manifested on either end), but I’ve been ghosted, and it sucks.

I am a geographer, and my little heart just went pitter-pat, because it’s so unusual to see people who know that geography is more than country and capital names! Thank you for saying it, since the most common reaction I get is either people thinking I’m a geologist (I wish!), or asking me what I do, since we know…

I have been quite lucky, it seems, that I’ve never encountered a partner, male or female, that balks at using a barrier method. I don’t have PIV, and I’m sterilized, so pregnancy isn’t a real concern for me, but I use condoms/dental dams for oral or anal.

Thank you for being gracious! I know on the internet, it’s easy to be snarky or dismissive, and boy, is it a pleasure when someone is kind :)

Not to pick on you, but just as a general thing: I don’t really know why so many people think that being topless is so common in Europe, because there are quite a few in which it’s definitely not allowed/not okay (even in Sweden, which people consider to be pretty liberal or open-minded, you can be asked to leave a…

I am currently interviewing for a small publishing house that deals exclusively in romance, and I am trying to add in diverse characters. They give me a template to write from (Hero/Heroine, basic plot: they do not yet go LGBTQAI+ romance, though I’ve told them I am fine with writing that and should they expand, I…

Hey, I’m sorry about the breakup. That has to hurt, and wanting something more than what someone can give hurts and makes you feel like you’re just too much, even if you’re reasonable. I am someone who can’t give much to my partners, and they sometimes need more that I can give. That’s not a failing on them: it’s an…

I really like Bojack Horseman, but I can’t say I share any love for Rick and Morty. They do have some overlapping themes, but I would say that I like Bojack better because the characters actually develop and attempt to be better, to address what’s wrong with them. I see Bojack trying, sometimes failing, sometimes…

Thank you for saying it :) I’m a little worried, you know? It’s been two months, and I think I lost about 10 pounds, and I just feel so strange about my own weight (which my babbling about it in the comments probably shows, doesn’t it?), and I’m excited to be my “normal” size again.

I believe it! An ex of mine wears a 24 or 28, I can’t remember, and she really struggles to find clothes that not only fit, but aren’t like... basically curtains. Or weirdly sparkly (which I love, she hates). She tends to gain weight most in the stomach area, making it harder to find both tops and bottoms, whereas…

I recently became “plus-sized” - I was on SSRIs that made me gain about 50 pounds (I have since switched and am hoping I can lose said weight). Yep, I’m feeling pretty weird about it. And I went to JCPenney with my mom while I’m visiting home and found that I’m about 14 or 16 in women’s pants (I generally wear men’s…

I don’t think I did know that! If I do know these people (and of course, it’s not impossible that there are just multiple couples like this!), I never knew them well, just friends-of-a-friend thing. He’s a bit on the thin side, with spiky hair, and she’s shorter and a little heavier, with bright blue eyes and likes…