I think the telling issue is that there doesn't seem to be any reason to suspect that she was kidnapped other than hr dissimilar appearance.

Reposting from another thread, on the assumption that this girl was kidnapped:

I think we use the word hero way too often, but I'm willing to bust it out for all of those women (and a couple of men) who go to work every day and help these kids fight, all the while trying to make sure they get some sort of childhood inside the hospital.

Not everyone grew up in the United States and is familiar with the complicated race relations and there's something to be said to not generalizing the expectation of understanding other races.

There was one other thing I meant to say above. The hierarchy I've seen only takes into account the baby itself. There are many other factors that might switch the hierarchy for an individual woman, such as the opportunity cost of pumping.

I think it is rare to use donated milk in the long term, although I've seen it happen in one rare case where a child literally could not process any other nutrition (long story involving multiple disabilities and illnesses).

In general, I think it is used to supplement at the beginning when a mother's milk has not…

To be clear, I put (cleaned) donated milk on the list, but what I really meant was "clean, screened, and regulated donated milk."

To be clear, I put (cleaned) donated milk on the list, but what I really meant was "clean, screened, and regulated donated milk."

To be clear, I put (cleaned) donated milk on the list, but what I really meant was "clean, screened, and regulated donated milk."

To be clear, I put (cleaned) donated milk on the list, but what I really meant was "clean, screened, and regulated donated milk."

That's awful. I am in LLL, and the leaders are the most awesome, compassionate, helpful people I know. They open every meeting with "Take what works for you, leave the rest" and welcome women at all points in their nursing journey, from pregnancy to supplementing to weaning. I feel really lucky to have stumbled…

Awesome LC. At one point, one of the in-hospital LCs said "I'm just worried that you're not that committed to breast feeding." I seriously considered taking a photo of my daughter nursing at 2.5 and sending it to her along with a moderately snide note. The only reason I didn't is because I'm lazy, and because I…

I understand that this is not uncommon, actually. When my oldest was new, I gave her formula against the recommendation of the LC, simply because I'd been awake so long I was hallucinating (looooong prodomal labor, followed by a looong regular labor, and a very hungry post-due baby that would not sleep). Getting…

That's the hierarchy I've always seen, with nursing at the top because of the benefits of breast milk PLUS the physical benefits of nursing from the breast (something about the facial muscles involved, or the shape of the palate).

Next comes pumped milk, because of the benefits of breast milk in general (DHA, "good"…

Amen. I've nursed other women's children, including one with a cleft palate that made nursing from his own mama more challenging (I had a newborn at the time, so he didn't even have to latch, the milk just sprayed in his mouth).

It was awesome, and I wish more women had the chance to both share their milky goodness,…

What Bekaby said. I'm a huge supporter of moms who want to and can breast feed, but there is absolutely nothing to feel guilty about. You are becoming a mom. The fact that you are even worried about something as relatively trivial as this suggests you are going to be pretty good at it.

As a seasoned veteran to a…

Maybe you ought to read one of the many Jezebel articles about how hard pregnancy can be, and all of the things that can go wrong. Or are you one of those "pregnancy is always a gift from G-d and there's no such thing as maternal illness or mortality pro-lifers?"

At a certain point, you have to listen to the folks who have been there. My youngest will not take a bottle. Not from me, not from daddy, not from grandma, not from the very nice ladies at the YMCA. I introduced the bottle at the "right" time. I left the house so someone else could try. It just didn't take.

Now,…

I think the issue here is more "who will watch the baby in between nursing sessions?" If all of her friends are also moms, or work full-time, she could easily have no accessible childcare during the day.

Clearly the law should make exceptions for folks like your BIL, as well as this woman. The time when she has a nursing baby is short, and the time that your BIL was the sole caretaker was also time-limited. There is plenty of time for them to serve, and plenty of folks without those limitations to take their place…