That’s the title of my next short story. :)

I never got angry. That might be on your end, if there is any anger between us... I don’t know. I provided clarification regarding my original comment, in context of the thread’s timeline. I did this to tell you that I didn’t really understand why you were telling me how surprised you were about repeating yourself. I…

Also the more I think about it, the anal sex analogy is perfect. While loads of women try it over the course of their lives, it is not a norm regular go-to for any but a very small minority of women. And most women who try it say it is painful. My own opinion is that straight men who have never themselves been…

I’ve said it. I’m a woman, and I’ve always had a great deal of insecurities, exacerbated by being abused, so I tend to apologize for things that embarrass me. A lover in college suggested I “could stand to lose a couple pounds” while pinching my hip for effect. I was anorexic, and dangerously overweight at the time.…

To be honest, there are plenty of awful (and popular!) descriptions of sex written by women too. Groaners like “his hardness entered my wetness” springs to mind.

Well, I’ve been sort of a schlubby nerd for ever, and I’ve had at least 2 women make apologies in a similar manner.

What are you so angry about?

That just because something is in a book doesn’t mean the author, or even the character, thinks it’s a good thing. I don’t want to be long-winded but it’s very common in books for things to happen that are meant to horrify or disgust the reader, and if you’re just reading this one thing out of context, you will…

They’re making a good point. Context matters.

I’ve got to wonder about the male point of view that women are really into or impressed by cum. I find this a lot in bad writing, also in porn, also in guys’ sex ads, etc. They are always talking about the size of their load, wanting to shoot their cum in various places, expecting women to get all excited about cum,…

The passage quoted is a dream sequence taken out of context. Murakami writes in a vaguely surrealist Japanese literary tradition, in line with the work of Kobo Abe, but with a kind of postmodern globalist twist (so sort of by way of Kafka) as well as psychoanalytic overtones (hence the dream sequences). His spare…

That scene was a nightmare the protagonist had, i.e. it is meant to be neither pleasurable nor realistic. This is the problem with reading one paragraph of a novel out of context.

This BTW is a big reason I hate this award every single year.  Ripped from context, very few sex scenes are good.  That’s not to defend anything here specifically, but, like, the article knocks the Murakami one for sounding supremely unsexy -- which seems like exactly the point, if it was a nightmare!

Speaking as a man, “enameled pepper mill” is....interesting, but terribly outdated. No, no, my partner and I are nothing if not modern, our metaphors are all about Sous vide vaginas, air fryer butts and insta-pot penises.

“Impossible! IMPOSSIBLE that large groups of women could be self-conscious about the size of their own breasts! Harumph! HARUMPH, I say! Good da...no, not for you. Bad day, sir.  Sedgwick, slam the door gruffly as I leave!”

In my time working for a literary agent, and previously, I’ve read plenty of equally, poorly written sex scenes by women, that say similar things. It’s a difficult thing to do.

“I removed my pants and presented my manhood like a Bowerbird presenting a twig. Her dark, moist eyes grew wide like a Weddell seal. She leaned forward tentatively, sensing my body the way a Whitenose snake senses its environment.”

I’m on the other side of the coin - my wife likes to be awoken with arousal, one of her big turn ons. Meanwhile I’m over here fretting about consent and being creepy and then in fact being creepy as i deliberate for 10 minutes at the foot of the bed if today is the ‘right’ day to wake her up with kisses and touches…

Countless plastic surgeons all 0ver the world could tell you a different story.

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