This exact same thing happened to me. I am looking at the edits right now, confused and worried and a little pissed off.

Someone made you get a background check to volunteer at a school because you don’t share a name with your kids? I’m sorry keeping your own name has been so burdensome to you but no one I know has had the same experience.

Though, we have never been inconvenienced to the point of regret.

I LOVE the coin flipping idea. Amazing!

Have you actually experienced this? Or are you assuming? Because, as I’ve said, in my experience none of the stuff you mentioned (background checks, people assuming non-relation, extra explaining, etc) happens, or when it does, it is not particularly burdensome. Less burdensome, to me at least, than changing my name…

Are you saying that keeping my last name is submitting to a patriarchal tradition as well? We have patriarchal naming systems. We can also work to end them.

To me it seems that way.

Further, even if you keep your last name professionally, use the same name as your children/husband. It makes stuff much, much easier with the school, etc., etc.

Then give them yours! Make your husband’s name the middle name.

My husband and I don’t share a last name. My mother never took my father’s last name. It really hasn’t been a problem for anyone. No one thinks we are less of a family. No one has given us any trouble checking into hotels or at the hospital.

It’s not about defining yourself with a man’s name. It’s about keeping an identity. It’s about, as Hannah said above, being proud of your individuality. I’ve had my name for 40 years. It’s mine, as much as it is anyone else’s. And to change it just because I got married seems to undercut my independence.

Trump is a huckster. I think, in the end, Cruz would actually be worse for the country. But maybe it’s just that I can’t imagine Trump would actually be able to do any of the outlandish things he talks about. But if he could?

though the issue of police ineptitude/malfeasance IS apples-to-apples in the larger sense. Does that make any sense?

Very persuasive argument, thanks.

Ive seen the crime scene photos, and theres no way it could be anything but a crime fueled by passion and rage, very personal.

Despite our often deeply flawed justice system, the problem of intimate partner violence is still not made up. If a woman is murdered, there’s a pretty high likelihood that she was killed by her male partner.

The LAPD fucked up their investigation, but there were just as many officers who did things that could be construed as “favorable” to OJ as those who were alleged to have done otherwise .

Exactly. I have always been certain OJ was guilty, but the defense arguments in the OJ case have some similarity to those in the Avery case; it is much easier for me to see a case for reasonable doubt (in a legal sense) simply because of how inept the cops are.

Watching The People vs OJ after seeing/hearing Making of a Murderer and Serial has made me question OJ’s guilt. I think he most likely did it (given his history of abusing her) BUT it would be hard for me to take any police evidence at face value right now. And this? This asshole cop who was more concerned with…

So not only is the actress who is playing her in black face and prosthetics, she’s also way younger than Simone was at the time portrayed in the film (supposedly 1993! Simone was 60!)