I feel sorry for women who can't experience the joy of marriage. My husband is a top oncologist, and he gave me a lakeside wedding at dusk. It was the most beautiful wedding, and then our first child was born 10 months later. Tony supports me, and I support him, and our children bring so much light into our lives.

My children are so smart that they don't even enjoy movies. They can't ignore the holes in the story. I always have to hide my smirking when I talk to other parents who describe their family nights at the theatre. My son is even writing a novel and he's only 12 years old, and he's skipped three grades already. Oh…

There are actually many non-racial things that can calibrate a person's thoughts and reactions to different people. I know that being black makes a race-centric view a near-inevitability, but if you lack the ability to account for this bias then you will continue saying boneheaded things in public