I didn’t know she was 22 at the time either. For some reason I always thought she was in her mid-30s or early 40s, which in my young mind at the time seemed old enough to cut off somebody’s wiener.

This! I’m 25 and all I knew about Lorena Bobbitt was jokes about her being crazy and cutting a guy’s dick off. It’s wild how much of this case was stripped away

22! I forgot (never realized?) how young she was. I’m also not sure if I ever knew she was an immigrant, and how that was weaponized against her - so much vulnerability. My heart aches for her.

Yes, Helen, it most certainly was. 

Saying you “don’t recall” something isn’t saying you didn’t do it. And if you have to keep asking someone her age to excuse what you’re doing, if you hope her mother doesn’t find out what you’re doing, and if you compare yourself to R. Kelly while you’re doing it, you know what you’re up to.

I remember when they got married a bunch of people said “Oh, great. She’s going to ruin his music.” Simply because he was “broody and deep” and she made cheerful, pop music. They never thought the “broody and deep” dude was just an asshole that would ruin her music career.

had no idea about him and Natalie Prass! details? I love her! (and have always disliked him)

I knew this guy was a complete douchebag 4 years ago when I was out on a date with the woman I was seeing at the time and this fucking asshole kept continuously interrupting our night out texting her asking/begging her to leve our date to buy him pills and bring them to his house. I said he sounded shitty and…

Taylor Swift. No doubt in my mind he covered her album in an attempt to get closer to her.

Starting a thread of all the female musicians and songwriters this dude tried to fuck with so we can give them all some spins, I’ll start:

We’re all liars, dontcha know? All the accusers? Simply a conspiracy formed by a couple of bitter exes. Duh! [banging my head on the table]

At least Phoebe Bridgers destroyed him on “Emotional Motionsickness” (my username namesake and one of my favorite songs). Here’s hoping he fades into the night as a fucking asshole who can’t even manage to make a girl cum.

That statement at the end...that’s the sort of thing abusers say. Several women, from across the spectrum of age, location, and career status, including his ex-wife, do not just make shit up to shit on him. I’m sure he thinks that, but he’s clearly delusional.

Somebody roll the windows down.

Sew a “B” in front of the first name and pretend you’re Canadian

Slap a B in front of his name as the ultimate fuck you.

Thanks for writing this Ed.

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