It was also used as a way to completely dismiss Elementary when it was first announced. Instead of celebrating Lucy Liu as being a WoC in a gender and race-bending role, Sherlock fans/shippers basically announced a boycott of the CBS version because they thought it was homophobic to deny the sexual tension between…

Yes. I had a HUGE problem with the Southern Vampire Mysteries fandom, for example, when (spoiler) Sookie didn't end up with Eric and fans sent Charlaine Harris death threats. I mean, are you kidding me? This woman gave you years of entertainment, and you want her to die because you think the main character didn't end…

It happened as well when Martin Freeman's partner, Amanda Abbington, got onto the show as Mary didn't it? As far as I recall, she got a lot of nasty abuse for fans who seemed to feel she was the reason why Freeman and Cumberbatch as well as Sherlock and Watson weren't getting together.

It's also worth adding that m/m pairings aren't actual gay people, and getting excited for things such as marriage equality because OH MY GOD NOW JOHN AND SHERLOCK CAN GET MARRIED is really disrespectful.

Oh my gosh, #4!!!

There are plenty of straight women we can be friends with; why is it so awesome to have that with a guy?

The funny part is that nobody that isn't into gay characters is going to read, much less give a shit about queer fanfic... so writing something to "punish" an audience that is never going to read what you are writing is .... well, just plain stupid.

Totally with you except about the "Social Justice Warrior" thing. That's a phrase mostly used to discredit real activism, and I think that there is a lot of great stuff about the Social Justice movement. It's like feminism without the fixation on white women. It has opened up my eyes to a lot of my own privilege and…

The rampant, out-of-control misogyny in the slash community is another major problem.

That's a phrase that I've heard several liberal, intelligent women say without shame: "I love gay guys." I know that these women understand that gay men are not homogenous, so what the hell do they mean by that statement? It's certainly not something they'd say about any other non-dominant group. Something about gay…

A few years back there was a local Con which had Gareth David Lloyd (Ianto Jones from Torchwood) as a guest. He did two panels, and a friend who went to the first one said that most of the questions seemed to come from young women in Captain Jack coats whose questions seemed to revolve around gathering details for…

OMG #4 So much OMG. While this was not specifically about slash, it was still from the same mindset.

I think being mad about rape being used as a plot device is an entirely different issue from being mad that a canonically straight character isn't falling for a character of the same gender, like you want.

With 4, I think there is a limit, I've seen slash fic comic that have put Batwoman who is a lesbian in the comics and kicks ass, into forced hetro rape (and yes she is still a lesbian in these) and believe me I was mad when I saw it.

This. All of it.

1.) It is okay to find gay men having sex hot.

There might be some similarities there, I hadn't considered that before. I think it's just similar, though, not completely equivalent. Part of the straight male obsession with lesbians is the idea that they will be invited to join the sex. I don't see that aspect in women who like watching gay men get it on. If it's…

I think it's similar in the fetishization, but different in the expected outcome. At least in my experience, so this could obviously be totally wrong.

I can't imagine my deep, maybe slightly pathetic, love for Clint/Coulson fic translating into me asking the gay men I know in real life about their sex life. But I also wouldn't really ask anyone but my very closest friends about their sex lives, and only if it was relevant to the conversation, so my boundaries on…

When someone in a community other than yours says what you are saying or doing makes them uncomfortable, stop. Everybody messes up sometimes. I have messed up. But just listen up and stop.