@HurricaneEyes: Thank you for a sane suggestion! Although "The Ethical Slut" is sort of the standard for non-mono field guides, I really think that Taormino's got a much more logical and thoughtful (and less frou-frou spiritual) handle on the subject. I own that book, but I've probably loaned it out to at least five…

@DonnaPirana: OMG! I was Sarah too! ZombieSarah, though.

@Artemis47: AHAHAHA I would promote this if I could.

@thechibster63: Yes - be careful not to oversaturate. TTO is good for the interior of your snatch, but the outside (ie entire vulva) has such a sensitive web of nerves—it can react quite awfully. I got reactionary bumps that look suspiciously STI-ish and probably hurt about as much. My advice - get an unbleached,…

@AfroJezeBella: I wouldn't call it an irrational fear. Have you had a pap before? Was it a cold, frustrating, alienating, invasive procedure? Doctors and NPs can be dickheads sometimes— they don't realize that what they're doing can have serious psychological effects on their patients.

@dismantledwoman: apparently, I was allergic, and it started eating away at my vaginal skin

I can't even imagine. My boyfriend and I live together and we each have one other partner, any time one of the "others" comes by for a romp, the sheets are washed immediately after, a fresh set is put on and life continues. If we don't have any outside guests over the course of two weeks, we'll change them…

@PilgrimSoul: [dontdatehimgirl.com]

I have totally been an unofficial "abortion doula", and I'm really grateful to have been able to be there for a friend to support/distract/comfort/drive. It's an honour, of sorts.

@invisibletothe3y3:

Boyfriends current and potential in the future: Just don't lie to me or deceive me. Ask for what you want and need and we'll work something out. Just do NOT lie to me.

I'm a Vancouverite. I'm not really anti-Olympics so much as very aware of how this is too expensive for our city and it's just not the right time for us in a lot of ways to undertake such a thing. There is rampant poverty in the DTES, piss-poor funding for government programs... Our infrastructure (in terms of roads)…

My longterm boyfriend doesn't even have a learner's permit. I've been driving/have owned a car since the moment I was able to. Other boyfriend can drive just fine, but since the car is mine and he doesn't have one, I do the driving.

@Cerridwen: Haaaaale yeah! East Van is where my heart lives but I'm currently right by Central Park in Burnaby. My all of me would live on the gulf islands if it was feasible though. :)

@jenniferhill: I think you're missing something in the first part of this story. Rush Limbaugh was upset with you?

@Cerridwen: <3<3<3 la columbie britannique! Everything about Salt Spring Island is amazing, not least of all the coffee.

Awww, Weird Al and my bb Patton are friends? That warms my heart.

@bananaballs: OH. My apologies. Yes, ACTUALLY being monogamous is safer than presuming monogamy and getting something else. I just read that wrong, as if entering into monogamy somehow protected you from cheating. Knee jerk reaction from the poly kid, I humble myself at your feet. :)

@cand86: Thank you. I've been a practicing nonmonogamist for about three years, I don't feel like my love depreciates if I give it to more people. I have two partners that I'm essentially poly-fidelitous with (if that makes any sense, gramatically) but only one of them is my primary partner, my life-mate. I'd like to…

@bananaballs: So... and I'm not trying to be inflammatory here... Monogamy is safer than what, exactly, and why? It's just that your first sentence doesn't really mesh with the rest of what you're saying. Yes, cheating is terrible, but does being monogamous somehow keep you safe from cheating?