You were raped. If you weren't shaken up you'd be a robot. <3
TurtleDovetailed (the constantly grey gardener)
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I hadn't thought of it in the context of those other euphemisms of sorts, that's a really good point. I've told very few people IRL about being raped, mostly because I freeze up and am literally unable to say anything when I try to bring it up at all—it's a truly strange experience, especially as someone who's fairly…
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Why are you doing this? What is there to gain from you telling someone who has trouble dealing with a violent sexual incident that they have no right to feel triggered by conversation. Triggering may or may not be an overused word. It is, however, a valid and well understood psychological mechanism. People dealing…
You have the power the be a better person. She has the power to dismiss comments. Just saying.
See also: referring to abortions as 'terminations', or abusive relationship as 'bad relationships' or a whole gamut of experiences that are loaded because of... you guessed it, rape culture.
You know if I answer that I'd have to kill you, right? ;)
Ah, I see what you're saying and I absolutely agree. I've actually heard statistics before that vary dramatically from the specific rape statistics I've seen, and after looking into it I've realized they're referring to ALL sexual assaults, not just rape. I think you're right that the 8% of men responsible for 90% of…
Well, I'm sure you have a better understanding of nether regions than I, since you live with your head up your own ass. However, your willingness to play a game to win rather than support those who feel upset by their inability to set the rules doesn't make you a better person. It simply makes you foolish.
Excuse me?
I do think it's strange that sexual assault is a catchall term that is frequently used to refer to rape, but is also an accurate term for something like an unwanted butt grab. Personally, I frequently use the term sexual assault to refer to my own rape, and I've given a decent amount of thought to whether that's in…
Nope. The majority of men commit at least some micro aggressions against women that are sexual in nature on a daily basis. You're not crazy. It is in fact a mark of your excellence that you are noticing.
This is actually a real conundrum for people trying to both assess and fight all forms of sexual misconduct against women by men. First I should say that I'm probably a few years behind on the research, as I was women's officer of my uni for a long time as a student, but haven't been for about four years. During that…
Uh, okay, though. I kinda dig the bear-foot joke. That's cute. And, I mean, bears are awesome. I disapprove of the rest, though.
"Dear Prudie:
I actually don't believe it and suspect it's closer to 15-25%, with another 30-40% engaging in "tiny assault" like ass grabs at parties and the like. The 8% — which used to be 6% — strikes me as a desperate accommodation of the fantasy that this is really about the psychopath in the alley, someone who's not really one…
Not to be a bummer, but is there any reason to believe that expulsion results in the rapist being less rapey in other environments? Does the reason for the expulsion even follow him? Is it recorded on his transcript? I understand why people like the idea of expulsion, but it's a bit too much like transferring…
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