I’m white, but from a poor family, and it’s so odd seeing the difference with my boyfriend, who is from an upper middle class family. He’s 27 and still on his parent’s phone plan. They pay half of his car insurance, too. When he was younger, they paid his tuition, and paid his rent and living expenses for years. I’m…

This makes so much sense. And if people like this are unwilling to recognize informal financial help from their parents as real and actual help—the kind that counts—it’s no wonder that they’re also unwilling to notice and acknowledge informal racism (and other forms of oppression) as real. You know, the kind of…