My daughter is 12 and considers herself fairly worldly and it’s true she’s traveled, has mature taste in art, books, etc., a super-cool 20-year-old cousin who she’s close to, etc., and probably even thinks she knows a thing or two about sex (we’ve had “the talk” a few times so she knows the basics), but I can say…

Child victims of sexual molestation or rape may not appear to object, because they do not understand what is happening to them, and just go along with whatever the adult wants. That's not consent, that's waiting for things to be over.

not necessarily all that unwilling

I was molested in a public space as a kid and I didn’t seem “all that unwilling” either. That’s because I was paralyzed, intimidated, and mortified.

In related news, Roman Polanski is slated to helm a biopic of Detective Kelly.

It somehow feels even more tragic that she was believed by:

Yep. I love the comments here about the husband “needing to learn how to trust again”. I mean, seriously? The husbands ability to trust is just fine. That was never the problem! The problem was her breaking that trust. So you’re absolutely right... the husband doesn’t need to learn how to trust again, she needs/needed…

His anger was a minefield for you? How about some compassion: He had to live with that minefield inside his brain — and you put it there.

i have experience here. I got cheated on after 10 years of marriage. after separating for a year we realized that divorce sucks. the reason that my wife cheated was because there was something missing from our marraige. We had our family and we still cared about each other. Neither one of us wanted to separate but…

I was hesitant to chime in until people started suggesting violence. Here’s the deal, people. It sucked and was easily the worst period of my life. On the other hand, the last few years have easily been the best period of my life...funny how things work out that way. As for the anger...remember that part in the first…

Are you lying about it or otherwise concealing the truth from your partner? Then it’s cheating. End of story.

Here’s the thing, though...it’s not like he was deliberately bringing it up to ruin your mood. It was ALWAYS on his mind. Even in the happy moments. Being angry for a long time is, you know, a thing that happens when your spouse cheats on you. His anger is justifiable. And honestly, your ultimatum? Would probably have…

You should also draw boundaries around questions that you know would be too painful to answer. If they ask about the dirty details, say something like “I don’t want to keep anything from you, but I also don’t think hearing that information will be helpful in any way.”

My personal definition is anything you know your partner would not be okay with you doing but instead of not doing it you do it and keep it hidden. Just like anything, cheating is when there are rules in place but somebody isn’t following them.

Imagine a cop did this to your kid. In fact, imagine anyone did this to your kid.

Related: when someone says “I hate drama” RUN THE OTHER WAY.

Because it wouldn’t be fair to hold all men responsible for the actions of a few. It’s only fair to hold all women responsible.

So what’s the men’s curfew?

As a practicing oncologist, the statement “he begins by announcing that his cancer is down from ‘stage three to stage two’” is a huge red flag. Staging is done up-front at diagnosis and is never re-evaluated or changed during treatment. You can be cured or die from both stage II and III non-Hodgkins lymphoma, but your…