Woof. This sucks but if she thought you were harassing her do you really believe that you should be obligated to hear it from her first? She did the right thing by going to higher-ups. I don’t know why you felt the need to specify that it was a gay coworker who did investigating.

Jesus, you’re an idiot.

“Apparently even if she doesn’t even say no, she can come back claim rape?”

This is a terrifying response to a reasonable reaction. Why would you be scared to seek consent?? Jesus Christ.

There have been studies that indicate a mass amount of men would, in fact, rape a woman if they knew they wouldn’t be caught.

Ok, but the problem with this is that if you got mugged and had your wallet stolen when you were drunk, no one would fucking tell you it’s your own fault. No one would ask how many times you had carried a wallet with you before. No one would ask how much money you had, and then point to that as the reason you got…