I was really commenting on the OPs blanket statement about family being permanent. For some people family really is important, and I think that’s pretty cool. If I had a more general thesis it would be that you actually do get to choose your family, esp. as you get older. It’s a choice to draw close to or push away…

As someone who hasn’t spoken to my father in 8 years, not out of any anger or fallout but just because we are two entirely different people, families are not permanent. They’re just a loose agreement that genetics mean something socially.