Thank you for uniting in a completely unexpected way my appreciation for both veal and Ryan Murphy productions.

Yeah, I think the people calling her out for transphobia are the ones who need to be shut down here. Yes, trans visibility is important, but if you’re reading that tweet and your first line of complaint is “JUST BECAUSE HE HAS A UTERUS DOESN’T MEAN HE’S NOT A REAL MAN” then you’re missing the forest for the trees. I…

Because Rich didn’t write that and he didn’t even work for Gawker back then? Why is this confusing?

To be clear, my interpretation of that passage does not contradict your concern that this director is a straight man co-opting a gay man’s story. It seemed clear to me from the interview that Jenkins used making this movie to work through some of his own issues with the presentation of masculinity. And the way he…

I read this article yesterday and imagined all the people working for home insurance providers stopping at the word “trampoline” and logging onto their system to make sure they don’t insure this guy.

I don’t laugh at them in general, I knew guys/gals who were doing Renn Fest 30 years ago. I do laugh at a lot of the conversation around the sexy costume ladies, where people seem to know just enough about feminism to justify their desire to parade around in sexy costumes but not enough to understand why “treat me…

I do take it personally because I am the sort of woman who men term a “cool girl.” How else should I take it when people are demonizing a label that has frequently been applied to me? To me it feels like a bunch of women ganging up on women like me who aren’t trying to pretend to be the woman those women think I…

Thank you for the explanation. I admit I did not waste my carefully budgeted two-trips-a-year-to-Kotaku-to-laugh-at-cosplayers on any of those headlines.

I’m deeply familiar with that passage in Gone Girl. I’m slightly alarmed at how easy many women find it to adopt whole-cloth the rant of a vengeful sociopath. Healthy!

the whole concept of “I needed a straight man to pretend he was gay, because that’s easier than a gay man pretending to be masculine.”

Wait, did you regret telling him to fuck off? Because that sounds like a success story to me, not a cautionary tale against standing up for your friend. Dude threw fucking mulch at you, which is slightly less likely to harm you than if he’d thrown his shoe. (Although shoe throwing would have more dignity.) The valet…

I repeat: Not that you should or must respond that way

She had some joke in an old routine that went something like “I used to date Latino men, but I realized I prefer consensual sex.” That’s the only example I remember off the top of my head, but I don’t follow her closely.

I did not. That would be a disservice to chaps.

Actual cool girl response to this behavior: that’s not cool, man.

The premise of your complaint, that there’s no meaningful difference between The New York Times and the family owned grocery store down the street, is pretty stupid as well.

Oh, trust me, I know how specific these things can get in their targeting. I did a google image search for “chaps” last spring and I had ads for leather chaps following me around for months. There’s nothing in my browser history that would suggest I’m interested in anything to do with video games (or the esoteric…

I’d like to register my discomfort that “You may also like” is directing my attention to 3 articles on Kotaku:

I hear ya. What worked for me was accepting the reality of what functioning at top-level looks like for me. It’s not as impressive as it seems like it should be based on consideration of my discrete capabilities and sometimes that makes me sad. But that is my reality, and getting angry at myself for not being able to…

It’s amazing, isn’t it? Meds don’t even work that well for me, they just get me to subsistence level. But I spent so many years feeling guilty about it, like I should be able to bootstrap myself. Once I reached that point of “fuck it, I’m gonna take what I need to take” I became a much better consumer of meds. I…