Actually, what I'm still mad about is that she refused to pick up my son from school when I couldn't get to him. I would NEVER have done that to her or her son, especially because she had always professed to love my son so much. I was going crazy thinking that he was upset and in pain and that I couldn't get to him,…

Over the last few years, I've really examined my criteria for 'friendship'. There were people in my life that I actually dreaded seeing because I felt worse after I left them, or they made me feel bad about my life or who I was as a person. Those people are gone now. Now I make a point of cultivating friendships with…

Excellent point. I read that piece in Huffington Post and I agree with you. She might as well have just come out and said "let other FEMALE writers have a turn". She certainly was speaking to any male writers. Thank you for making this point.

If he had asked in advance and maybe brought you a present from his trip, I'd say sure. Otherwise, no way. Why should he benefit from your work? And I say this as a current fulltime student.

I recently became a student at a university at which a woman who I consider a "former" friend of mine, who is a PhD candidate in sociology, is a non-tenured professor. I've run into her a couple of times and each time she hugs me and insists that I contact her through the university e-mail to catch up. The last time I…

Jeebus! That Habs baby looks like Rob Ford as an infant - scary!

Do you honestly think that that is an effective message? Yes, it's a lovely thought. It's like going south of the Mason-Dixon line and saying "Don't be racist" kthxbai. For the hundreds of thousands of wonderful white people in the Deep South who are not racist, there will always be those assholes who use the 'n' word…

I'd like to see a state pass a law that permits a woman to sue abortion protesters outside clinics for 'emotional distress', especially if she went to the clinic for some healthcare reason OTHER than abortion - ie birth control counselling, gynecological examination, etc. THAT would be an awesome law.

Look - shit happens. There is a HUGE difference between going out, making a conscious decision WHEN YOU ARE SOBER that tonight you are going to drink until you can't stand up, make no plan for how you will get home safely or to a safe place, trusting that somehow, someway, everything will just work out, and the fact…

And let me add - in what way did he 'use alcohol to rape' you. Did he buy you the beer? Did he encourage you to drink more? Did he do ANYTHING to cause you to drink more than you normal would have? If so, then yes, he was setting up the situation. If he did nothing other than offer you a place to sleep it off and you…

Your issue wasn't entirely drinking, although your judgment may have been clouded by alcohol. You agree to sleep in the room of a man you didn't know because you thought he was nice. Seriously? Yes, I am about to go all 'victim-blaming' (for victim-blaming, read 'angry mom' here. That was really, really foolish. You…

If you really think that 'taking responsibility' means 'taking the blame', I feel very sorry for you. They are entirely different. One leads to power and forgiveness, one leads to guilt and anger. I'm sorry for what happened to you. If you'd read my posts, you'd know I was raped as well partly because of alcohol. I…

This wasn't a girl who 'went to a bar and drank'. Steubenville was about a teen who drank to the point of unconsciousness and was possible drugged. This wasn't about college-aged girls binge-drinking. The fact is, unless you are an alcoholic, you have a choice whether or not to binge drink or over consume. And yes, I…

Thank you. As a woman who was also raped after binge drinking and not being able to defend myself when the time came that I need to, I reflect back on that time and know that the man was 100% at fault and to blame, but I need to forgive myself for over-consuming to the point that I could neither physically nor…

A big part of the problem is that every time a woman writes an article that dares to suggest that women take some responsibility for their own safety, they are immediately shouted down as 'victim blamers' by so-called 'third wave' or 'post-feminists' who really don't understand the difference between 'casting blame'…

And I am so FUCKING SICK of women expecting the world to change for them instead of telling young women the truth - there are men out there who are predators and if you make yourself vulnerable, you will be prey. You can rant and rave all you want about wanting the world to change so that all women will be safe from…

What feminists do is take responsibility. What children do is blame everyone else for their problems and want the world to change for them, rather than change themselves and their behaviour. You choose.

As someone who WAS raped after over-consuming alcohol and who took responsibility (not BLAME) for her contribution in what by realizing that bending to peer pressure and binge drinking played a role in making her vulnerable to a predator, I will NEVER stop telling young women that binge drinking and over-consumption…

When women who proclaim themselves to be 'feminists' continue to misrepresent Emily Yoffe and the column she wrote about alcohol on college campuses as anti-women, you totally lose women like me and other non-extremists. Lindy, I've supported you when many others turned against you, but on this one, I'm out.

I love the evolution of BG over the last few collections. They were pretty out there with the whole Bohemian/Byzantine thing, but they seem to be working it out into something really beautiful and wearable. Love!