This was my story except was in late teens. It takes a lot of emotional work, grieving your fertility to get to the place where you are a healthy adoptive parent. Hope she does the work before jumping into that option. Adoption, is about the CHILD, not you, and it requires a selflessness that is difficult to prepare…

Is it powerful to have your official portrait look like an off-brand Kerry Washington fan art?

I do wish the face looked more like Michelle. I mean, it’s a cool painting, I love the contrast of the grey and the blue, and I think the inclusion of the flying geese pattern on her dress is playful and fun (as a quilter I am a big fan of that pattern), but the face is just... off. Michelle Obama is a genuinely…

I think if we are going to cut off every guy who has ever done something borderline amiss we are going to be incredibly lonely people. I don’t think the answer is ostracism. There needs to be dialogue. Guys feel cornered and will act defensively when confronted. That, for some reason, is almost the universal human…

So when I first read the name “Kevin Bleyer” I thought “oh good, some white dude is accusing women of bullying. I bet he NEVER is on the MRA subreddit.”

I feel like I’ve read a version of this piece at least a dozen times. It’s not that complicated - if you’re interested in racial justice, show up for racial justice marches and stuff. If you’re interested in gender justice, show up for that. If you have a limited amount of time, decide which is more important to you…

Suffering isn’t a competition

This is a common tactic to subvert political action. Take a women’s march and inject racial strife and discontent, suddenly you dramatically reduce the potential yield from it. It’s great to have a movement for BLM, great to have a movement for whatever the women’s march is branding itself as, but injecting strife…

This is what gets to me about this story. He apologized and left her alone. What else does she want out of this? If there are multiple stories that show a pattern from Aziz, then let’s hear that. I’m sorry she had to go through this on a date but I also don’t know what recourse she wants from him.

She also expressed her feelings to him the next day. He heard her out and apologized. I see no reason to doubt the sincerity of his apology. His statement on the matter affirms that he took her words to heart.

This was a bad date. She had a horrible date with a clueless guy who thought he was being sexy and hot. She was made to feel uncomfortable, and it wasn’t right.

The entire #MeToo movement is continuing to tear itself apart as they realize that literally everyone has had some shitty sexual encounters at some point. What started as a much needed calling out of dedicated sexual predators is devolving into “Any time anyone was ever pushy on a consensual date”, and it’s basically…

Yeah, such an awful show, focusing on a civically-engaged female lead character involved in local politics. What a terrible premise for a show, right?

She was sitting on his marble countertops- she could have easily kicked him away and left. I’m 5'3 and have done that to guys who were over 6 feet. It’s force plus the element of surprise. Subtle, non verbal cues don’t always work. No one can count on anyone else picking up non-verbal cues. It’s not blaming the…

“Constantly saying no” in this case meaning “non-verbal cues” and “blowing him”. Not defending Anzari, but she herself points this out.

Women need to explicitly say no, especially younger women. NO NO NO NO. I never had any problems saying that word. If they didn’t get what no meant, it was followed by a kick or a knee to the crotch. Women seem to give to much of their power away.

Now, I’m watching Seal slam Oprah with photos of her being cozy with Harvey Weinstein, who I’m sure if he hadn’t been found out, would also sport a TimesUp pin. Oh, and there’s a photo with Seal and Kevin Spacey looking like BFF’s ...

We need to stop deifying celebrities we like. We know nothing beyond the fact we like…

Non verbal cues? Here’s an idea, how about a loud, resounding, “no” with a kick to the crotch the second time?

My god... he didn’t force himself on her. That line seriously needs to be change. He didn’t rape her, and didn’t do anything like that. He was pushy, and sexually assertive/aggressive. That is not rape. She could have left. He is guilty of being horny and pushy about it too early. Instead of leaving she literally…

So his apology to her 4 months ago doesn’t mean anything? What he did want right but I’m not sure that it makes him a hypocrite or no longer qualifies him as an ally