This isn’t accurate. Queer is absolutely a term used by all manner of people in the LGBTQ community. Politely, your anecdotal evidence doesn’t mean much. Also, I’m sensing some bi-erasure with your comment about “actual” gay people, and the insinuation that bi people can somehow avoid being the target of slurs.

Piss on the appropriate door.

no one in their right mind would ever fuck them?

If you want men to be involved in an action, don’t give it a name suggesting only women should be involved.

Fuck the police.

Seriously, were this any other circumstance, they would be telling women to cover up more in the restroom because it’s in men’s nature to roam the earth sniffing out vaginas like malnourished hyenas.