I’m not getting married, but the “no shower” thing is a constant fight in my family. ALL of the brides have said that they don’t want a shower, but my grandma and older aunts always throw one anyway because it’s important to *them*.

Oh yeah, 100%. I wasn’t trying to say it takes away his culpability, or that anything he is doing is right - just that it might be an alternative explanation for erratic behaviour if he’s receiving contradictory information or last minute changes behind the scene.

OH, so you know my mom? ;)

I can see it. I know I’ve had experiences where TPTB at work have changed their minds at the last minute or given me some absolutely bonkers instructions, that must have made me look unhinged to the people who couldn’t see what was going on behind the scenes. Sometimes you just have to grin and bear it.

I like hyphens as well! I love my name. My kids will definitely be hyphenated... I just think that triple-barrel might be a bit much for a little baby. =D

That’s what my parents did. They each kept their last name, and gave us a hyphenated last name.

I’m in exactly that boat, and the just-drop-one thing really works... unless family politics gets in the way. I’d love to drop my dad’s name, and especially to drop it for my kids, but I also know that it’s a kettle of fish that it really isn’t worth opening up.

My parents went to school with someone named Donald Duck. My sister and I never believed them until we went to their 20 year reunion and met him, name tag and all.

Accepting that my brain wasn’t neurotypical was the biggest help to me as well. It allowed me to either build more time around the things I wasn’t good at or to try new strategies when the typical ones didn’t work. Most importantly it helped get rid of the voice in my head that constantly told me how useless I was.

Thanks for the reply. I do have a competent physician, but I don’t think that it’s fair to assume that someone’s physician isn’t competent based on a colloquial story on the internet.

I’m not exactly sure how your community colleges work, so take my answer with a grain of salt.

Thanks!

I don’t want to speak to ROTFlotsam’s experience (and I’m on Lisdexamfetamine instead of Adderall) but the end goal isn’t always to have a patient stop taking medication.

I am currently in the throes of dealing with my, let’s say, erratic university transcript at the moment. I was undiagnosed at the time and really struggled. Now that I’m diagnosed and have the supports in place I’d love to go back, but nowhere will accept me (even into a different undergrad program) with my less than…

I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 27, and the specialist that I went to see at the time told me that despite my pretty much “classic” presentation I was exactly the sort of person who was underdiagnosed: an academically gifted girl.

Team North America?

I do NOT get this problem some people have with their friends and their significant other hanging out. It’s totally normal? And is bound to happen in any long term relationship if everyone gets along?

Also, speaking on behalf of the rest of the world (who presumably would not have to live in the handmaid’s tale?) We’d much prefer if you don’t start a nuclear holocaust.

When I was about 14 I borrowed my mom’s tweezers and forgot where I put them. I still remember the way she broke down in tears because ahe couldn’t afford another pair and she just wanted that small thing that made her loom put together whrn she went out.

I don’t know. I’m having trouble believing that any genuinely good person could go back on his promises to indigenous peoples. Like, most other things I’m willing to give him some personal space for “political-dumbfuckery / politicians lie”, but failing in his promises to implement UNDRIP or allow indigenous peoples…