It’s entirely possible that two extremely common words were combined in two different contexts by two different social groups. However, the term that these articles are tracking originates, like so many other trending terms in the last 10 years, from the black community.

Every word of her testimony has been so heartbreaking, and so compelling. She so bravely and clearly articulates the confusion and the power dynamics at play, all the while making it absolutely clear where and when he crossed the line. I don’t think there’s a woman alive who could read what she’s said and not see one…

As a lifetime member on SLS and someone who’s been in the lifestyle for several years, I’m aware of a lot of things about swingers that you probably aren’t. And as a swinger, I can tell you I would never bother with a site like Ashley Madison. The actual swingers’ sites are ALREADY overflowing with lame solo guys who…

Are you trying to imply that men who have enough disposable income to try and pay to cheat on their spouses are “the least of us?” Because like, morally, yes. But demographically/privilege-wise, no.

I’ve never really set aside any time at supper for the raising of eyebrows, and now feel as though I have wasted many meals.

You’re a peach! I bet that Donald Trump impression you’re doing is a blast at parties.

...so are you? Sometimes, people make comments that bring in elements of their own experience. Like literally all the time, in the vast majority of comments. And I do write articles, for a living, so this is really not about that. I fully stand by my comment, the only purpose of which was to offer a counterpoint to…

Well, the girl who wrote this story does, apparently.

I was parodying the author’s incredible smugness in which she basically said structurally the same thing about people who *don’t* have tattoos. I am not denying my story because I don’t document it on my skin; I don’t care what she chooses to do with hers, but I don’t intend to sit here and be insulted by some infant…

I mean...did you read the original essay? Soooooo badass to assume that your personal choice to get a tattoo automatically makes you cooler than everyone else. I hear smoking cigarettes has a similar effect.

Thank you for a thoughtful response that gets at a lot of what I was trying to say. I was actually rather surprised that so many people seem to have accepted as fact the author’s assertion that tattoos unilaterally signify what she’s decided they signify, when that’s entirely a matter of opinion and not something from…

Not at all my point. I’m not a rebel for not getting a tattoo...how would that make any sense? I’m just saying that it’s ridiculous to assumed like your lived experience of human existence is somehow more profound than someone else’s, simply because you have tattoos and they don’t. I thought it was actually incredibly…

I’m glad you have a tattoo that’s meaningful for you. I have no idea how a tattoo will “outlast your living bodies” as presumably you know what happens to your physical body after you die (e.g. a tattoo will last exactly as long as your physical body and not a moment longer) but whatever brings you peace. I have also…

That’s exactly my point. It’s not that different. So why am I herb for doing something that’s basically not that different from what the author is doing?

I mean, that was my entire point in the first place. Tattoo or don’t, but no need to label other people based on it. Which was also the author’s point, except she couldn’t get it out without applying a label to people she automatically assumed were less cool than her because we don’t have tattoos.

I’m happy for you that you have a tattoo that’s meaningful to you. The loss of my grandfather was no less impactful for me even though I didn’t get a tattoo after it happened.

What exactly do you think a comments section is for?

Are you joking? I may not intrinsically *get* why someone wants to get a tattoo, in the same way I don’t *get* why people eat olives or watch football or live in South Florida, but I mean, I accept that people do. I don’t feel the need to call them names for getting a tattoo, and I don’t feel like I deserve to be…

If I’ve learned anything working in the fashion industry in New York City for the last decade, it’s that you can NEVER tell how much money someone actually has based on their public persona. NEVER.

As I understand it, you have up to a year to send a newly-married couple a gift, yes? So maybe she should chill the fuck out and see what happens? For most weddings where I was a bridesmaid, I sent a gift either a month or two before or a month or two after the actual wedding, because it cost THOUSANDS to actually be…