Alright, that’s great, and I truly hope it works out for you and you never experience abuse or violence. But just because you can face the world that way doesn’t make the legitimate fears of people who may have had bad experiences any less valid.

I know plenty of men I *believe* it is safe to date, but my point is right up until they kill someone the friends and family generally DO believe the guy would never do that. So who am I to say my powers of judgement are just so superior to everyone else’s? All of the people you see on the news saying oh he was the…

Yep that’s him.

He does this on threads following stories that involve rape. He’s a creep.

You don’t know shit about me or what I value, dude. So just stop.

“Why can’t the OP just say ridiculous things without someone questioning her on it? Won’t these trolls leave our echo chamber alone!!”

Seems to be, sure. But then there are those who don’t present themselves as the nutcases they are until it’s too late, which so many women in these comments are saying, but you’re just working real hard to ignore or argue endlessly.

And wouldn’t that be a story for the grandkids?

Oh, please. You do this all the time. Anyone can click your comment history and see what I’m talking about. You always start with a “just wondering” and when people argue you (often with more civility than you deserve), you reveal yourself to be unwilling to hear anything that doesn’t support whatever fucked up…

Obviously enough do that women are entitled to be scared of it. Otherwise this article, and all the others like it, wouldn’t exist.

Ugh, god. A young woman and her friend are murdered by her ex and the trolls don’t skip a fucking beat.

I had a guy do similar to me, 6 dates and I broke it off as I found myself becoming increasingly intimidated by him and how intense he was being. I was super careful to let him down gently, told him I just “wasn’t feeling it” and from what he had told me, we had different life goals (his included many children, mine…

That’s this dude’s MO. He is a concern troll who’s always “genuinely asking.” Pretty sure it was him arguing that the victim in the Brooklyn gang rape was possibly raping her attackers because she’s 18 and they’re minors. Disgusting.

Just as an aside to all of this, one of the stories linked says the guy walked in through an unlocked back door. Kids, please: lock your doors. I know you feel like nothing can happen to you at that age, but even if you feel like it’s unnecessary, please please pleasepleaseplease lock your doors. In college my brother…

I’ll never forget when I was dating this man three years ago and one day he proceeded to get strangely aggressive toward me and controlling. I looked him in the eye, tried my best not to look scared and proceeded as normal with cooking, and he backed off of his “weird mood.” But I felt like I escaped something. Then…

Yes, but that’s not really the point. Her friend was killed because of her ex boyfriend's anger towards her decision to break off the relationship. This is a fear women face while dealing with controlling significant others. It is an unfortunately reality that we have to deal with.

She’s always been pretty open about their relationship. On some talk show within the last few years she said that after becoming a mother herself, she could see why her own mother was so hesitant of her romantic involvement with Rene, and that she’d have similar concerns about her son being with a much older woman,…

Yeah, she’s over 40 and seems just fine with her choices, but keep being paternalistic and deciding that you know better than she does, k?

To all of you “disgusting he became her manager when she was 12" here, you do not know anything about their relationship. Have some respect for a grieving wife and the husband she lost. Not too much to ask, I hope.