“I think a lot of women find this sort of thing abstractly romantic until it actually happens to them and they realise it’s just weird and alarming.”

I got dumped once because the person I was dating couldn’t find me online. Anywhere. Apparently if I’m not willing to be on facebook I’m hiding something.

I agree that the degree of elaborate planning is what would tip this over from a bit sketchy to full on creepy. I think a lot of women find this sort of thing abstractly romantic until it actually happens to them and they realise it’s just weird and alarming.

It’s a creepy thing to hear, like, in the first month or two of dating. But once you know the person fairly well it shouldn’t be that weird. Either your partner is a creep or they are not. That they actively tried to run into you the first time you met isn’t much odder than hanging around the part of the office where…

Most meet stories aren’t especially cute or unique when cut down to their bare bones. Cute is built in how how you tell the story, giggles, antidotes, and all. Cute is imagining this already cute pair of people figure each other out. If it was creepy then, it’s probably still creepy now.

I don’t know that I’d find the meeting creepy, but maybe that’s because he didn’t give the details. If he just arranged to meet her at a party, that’s not creepy. If he showed up where she works out, that’s creepy.

I’m picturing them in cute little aprons barking orders (literally barking them)

Any coffee shop run by shelter dogs is a coffee shop I want to be at. I don’t even care how bad they are at making espresso. Let me pet you, barista puppy!

Thank you! Even reading the article, I got to the end with

It would weird me out if I was at an event and someone came up to me and said, “Hey! You are so-and-so’s friend on Facebook and I thought you look really cool so I came to this event to meet you!” I would be like, “Get away from me!” But if they just struck up a conversation with me and after we hit it off and fell…

“He has an androgynous name; when I heard people talking about him or if we were on the same mass email, I thought he was a chick.” I’d say that’s pretty great.

I met my bf on Tinder right after I swore off dating. I had gone on about five first dates with guys from Tinder in the past month with no luck and was fed up. I had already made a date with him and canceled once, so I felt bad about canceling on him again and decided to keep this one last first date. I wasn’t even…

Ew. Gross. Charbucks?

I’m leaning toward creepy but I think it depends how elaborate the set up was. Because I find friending/messaging a random person on facebook based on their profile picture is also creepy. Like, going to a public event or friends party that he was already invited to is not nearly as bad as, say, staking out her work…

I think people are more invested in the fantasy of accidentally being in the same place at the same time as your soul mate, than the down and dirty reality that sometimes meeting the right person takes work, and sometimes involve particularly un-romantic things like scrolling through online profiles. I can understand…

My boyfriend and I met online, way back when it was not that cool to admit that you cruise Craigslist for dates. I really don’t think he ever told anyone how we actually met. I regularly told people because I thought it was funny or edgy or something, I don’t know.

Thank you for being honest. I’m calling bullshit on the women saying that they’d find this cute and not creepy. Complete bullshit.

I saw this on Prudie the other day and couldn’t believe the comments that thought it was totally ok and not creepy. If I was this guy’s wife and he told me the real story behind our initial meeting I would reevaluate our entire relationship through that lens, wondering what other weird stuff had gone on unbeknownst to…