You just taught me a new word that makes my whole life make much more sense!  Thank you!

This is also one of my favorite songs by Total! Watching the video for the first time in years, my takeaway was that he died but before going off “into the light” had to go back for one last kiss. Maybe a stretch, but it makes sense to me. Totally unrelated sidebar, I really wish we could get better quality 90's music…

Just reading the title put a knot in my throat... I’m so there with you. Going to read now.

Yes! That moment moved me too. I really appreciated how he made himself accessible without being threatening.

It is possible, I’m a single person who started out with very bad credit. Fast forward 10 years and a whole lot of budgeting and paying off and waiting for things to fall off and I was able to buy my house. I did it by myself, with no cosigner, 3.5 down and a good interest rate compared to what was standard at the…

It’s “complaining” to say women don’t want to be harassed at work? Come on man! Do better. There are plenty of interactions which take place between men and women daily that don’t even approach being considered harassment. If you don’t understand the difference between what should be a “normal” interaction and…

I like your corrections!

The thing about the behavior of both of these men, and many others who behave this way is that they were not legitimately looking to initiate the start of a relationship. They were acting out their own desires with every woman they wished without regard to the feelings or desires of the actual women. This isn’t…

Yes! Yes! Yes! All of this!

You know, I’ve just come to that same realization myself and I have struggled with admitting it out loud. I mean, I’m not trying to give anyone a license to lie to me, but s*x is s*x and depending on the case, something that can be worked through and gotten past.

I see what you did there! ;-) I just had to drop in and say THANKS for making my morning with this... and by extension the rest of my day because that Velvet Rope will be bumping in my ears until bedtime... which also means I’ll be singing along throughout the weekend. Good times!

Nope! If anything I’m holding up a mirror and showing people their BS hypocrisies... It doesn’t make me any friends among the grown relatives I’ve got, but I’m trying to teach 3 girls who’s parent’s already showed them what ain’t -ishness looks like, how to rise above.

You saved me the time of typing this response! Seriously, if he’s really an asshole he wouldn’t care what her family and friends think. I don’t.

You say “Maybe those of us who are deepened and don’t rape and aren’t violent and yet carry some degree of sexism and misogyny but are willing and trying and working to grow want an outlet like VSB/theRoot to not use an amateurish false equivalency of whiteness and all that comes with it to liken us and how we are…

Can anyone help me get out of the greys? I don’t comment often but it makes me sad that I made this journey with you guys to the Root and I get lumped in with the trolls... :( Help!

Exactly this! They want consequence-free utilization... Nah... Not gonna happen...

“You don’t call someone else’s mother “mom”.”

I threw my back out going into the oven... but then, I was in a car accident last year, so I now and forever have something to blame for my back pain other than age. Seriously though, I know that pain... it really sucks! Heating pads really help.

What about bringing drinks to the bbq? I think soda would be a great conversation starter since there’s always going to be the Pepsi vs Coke debate, and immediately there’s one person they can bond over something with...

I would say Issa’s Woot Woot ding was facts... he just didn’t like that fact being thrown up in his face and so had to hit below the belt.