Yes! How DARE people enjoy their lives! You need to love miserably so you can afford an insanely overpriced home! Listen to me, I’m from a generation where the average home price was 1/2 what it is today in real terms and where you could afford college working a part-time minimum wage job!

...just read that, and realized one crucial point.

I can sympathize with people splurging on a smartphone, though. For most of us, we spend more time with it than any other single purchase we make; it’s a constant companion, and it enables a lot of genuinely constructive stuff (people run entire businesses off their phones these days). If I were broke I’d probably…

We’re all just so proud of you for being so frugal.

Lol, yeah. Let me go buy that$1,000 home.

Seriously. What the hell kind of underhanded advice is that? If you want to break up with him for flirting with this other woman, fine that is understandable (though equating it to full blown cheating is a bit much imo), but if you plan to break up with him over it then break up with him. Do not string him along in a…

If he’s such a weak spineless childish piece of shit that he agreed in the first place and then lashes out by having a 5 year affair with the woman, he should have never gotten married IN THE FIRST PLACE.

Exactly.

You deceive me for five years, your wants no longer matter.

Exactly. The advice about her foisting child rearing for a newborn on him is garbage. He’s not invested in the relationship. If his lady can’t move to him, he WILL move to her, and if LW thinks he’s going to put in his work as a father, let him prove it otherwise.

See, this is what we call “actionable advice”. She’s looking for specific things she can DO, and if she’s resigned herself to the fact that they’re going coparent, she should get her financial and custodial houses in order BEFORE she’s stuck with a newborn that there’s no guarantee he’ll help with.

LW 1: GET OUT. Do not listen to this advice here and get out now. It’s not going to get better.

I know we will have to co-parent, regardless of the outcome, so we are both seeking counseling in order to work through issues to be better parents. I just don’t know what is right, or at least, what other people would do in a situation like this.

My mom worked for a couple who did this. He was an anesthesiologist and the wife ran the clinic. It turned into a huge clinic that got bought out by a fancy hospital, so these people were mind-blowingly rich. The wife told my mom they had six kids because they believed they owed the world for being rich. Those six…

its horrifying to imagine we’re living in a world where we’re so old that people don’t recognize staple spice girls songs

Can’t believe I forgot that one! I replace the lyrics with “But that was 30 years ago, when she used to screw for blow...”. A lot better, IMO...

Yeah, she suffers from what a lot of people in American seem to be afflicted with: and utter lack of compassion or understanding of the needs of anyone who isn’t her.

I saw one of the fat shaming memes. It said “trump got more fat women out walking in one day than Michelle did in 8 years”. Fuck off.

Good grief, that’s excellent advice. Glad you posted.

My weakness is my hunger for all things shade because I worship at the altar of passive-aggressiveness. So I’m always back here every week like a masochistic dumb dumb!