I like to put it this way:

I'm "equal out" to half and half (mom is 1/4th black, dad is 1/4th white), and I always say that I consider myself a black girl because the moment I walk into a room, that's what people see. I was at a St. Patrick's Day party not too long ago and, when I mentioned being part Irish, a white girl snidely said "Yeah and…

Agreed, but I think it comes with it's own unique sets of problems. I'm the first person in my mother's line (mom, grandma, great-granda) that CAN'T "pass", I know that my younger sister has faced such charming comments as "I'd totally date you if you'd just not tell my parents that you're black" and "Yeah, but…

This is an extremely interesting issue to me; my mother and sister are both, like the author, very "unreadable" ethnically (when schools integrated, my 1/4th black 3/4th white mother was told by a classmate that "ni**ers ain't supposed to look like you!"). I argued on Gawker earlier that "ethnically ambiguous" black…

Eh, don't think I can support sexy timing to The Weeknd... IDK, being trapped in a house filled with booze, barbiturates, coke, and sadness just doesn't get me in the mood (and that is the theme of 95% of each of his albums). I do love The Weeknd. Just not for boning.

Dermablend is awesome for covering up, but is suuper duper limited in terms of colors and shades. A good friend who does drag swears by MAC- he uses two different foundations, but sadly I can't remember which two- and looks flawless when he's done. But he's also a MAC makeup artist so he's got skills beyond my own…

As much as I hate those Katie Roiphe/Hanna Rosin Slate articles, sometimes I wonder if the latter had a point when she argued that the word "feminist" itself might be damn near unreclaimable at this point. It's constantly dogged in the media, where actresses, singers, politicians, and CEOs alike all perpetuate the…

I frequently find myself going for a good old shrimp ceasar salad in the summertime... when it's just humid and gross out, and you're weighed down by five pounds of humidity, sometimes you just want something light.

If Will would like some company- or just someone to have a meal with so the tabs don't write about how he's so lonely and sad- I will certainly volunteer as tribute.

Weren't her measurements like 30-20-31 or something? I think they're cited higher up by the studios as like 34, but (and I know this is only so accurate) I'm the same height as she was, with 35 inch hips, and I definitely don't look as small as she did in pictures. If those stats are true then she was "curvy", sure,…

I think it makes a whole lot of sense given the time frame she was operating in; honestly, it makes a lot of sense now. Fifth Avenue, 5 AM is a neat book that talks about this in depth, but before Audrey, you had classy women (Jackie O) and sexy women (Marilyn); Audrey kind of invented the idea of a classy woman who…

Haha, kind of reminds me of how a former flame used to call me "the black Kate Moss" (a similar sort of waifish and gamine, as opposed to sexy and buxom, connotation) and I can honestly say: the number of male suitors I entertain certainly pales in comparison to the number of women I have saying they wish they could…

Well if "modest dressing" includes the heinous work coming out of Valentino these last few years- "FLDS chic" looks as seen on Chloe Sevigny and Michelle Williams- you can count me out...

Ugh thank you! I remember a white hairstylist once telling me not to believe it when a stylist says they "can't do" coarse hair: to get out of beauty school successfully, you need to know how to do coarse hair. Some people just choose not to. It was really kind of sad to hear it so bluntly, but to this day I'm…

"enlightened" implication =/= equal "enlightened". I'm just saying that that's often what that reads like to others, and not just in the black community. Lauryn Hill and Erykah Badhu are natural; Beyonce and Ciara are not.

NOTE: not saying the tiny fro looks ridiculous on everyone- honestly, it looks so cute on most people. But it just makes me look like a troll :(

"Picking out a fro is not for everyone, and not every hair type can make a good Afro"

I definitely get what you're saying, and totally see the appeal of rocking the fro- much in the same way that I like getting blowouts on my natural hair, my current go to do just happens to be straight. That being said, even though not all of my college friends are natural, pretty much all of my natural friends go to…

Yeah, this seems pretty accurate. I'm a college school senior, and know way, waaaay more people who graduated college single than those who graduated in a relationship (and lots of those relationship people were actually in relationships with/currently married or engaged to people they started dating in high school!).…

If it's harder to find a husband outside of college than in, I should really just join a convent now. Because I'm a college senior and can count the number of even semi-serious suitors I've had one one hand...