Are we really going with the word "racist" to describe dating preferences or attraction? Clearly in many cases these preferences are the result of historical and contemporary attitudes towards men and women of different races and ethnicities. That's an important discussion to have. But I'm so uncomfortable with the…

You keep those texts and tell all your friends. I may be paranoid but I would keep all that in case he tries something against you.

Yeah, I've never tried Tinder. I have this idea, possibly a false one, that it's more for hookups? I tried OKC for legit dating and I didn't delete my account, I just stopped ever going on it. Maybe there should be dating websites where you have to pass tests to make an account. I'd join one where you had to prove you…

I'm disturbed by how many men think they are straight up entitled to women after giving a "compliment." It's part of rape culture - men have some internalized that they are entitled to a woman and that this kind of rage is an acceptable response to minor rejection.

What kimbersays... said! I met my husband online even. So many weirdos, and then this cute boy messaged me asking my cat's name. And even before then, despite the weirdos, plenty of lovely polite people I just didn't click with. These bad apples really do stink up the whole barrel though.

Because you will find a decent person out there. I thought I was finished in my early 30s then an old friend came back into my life and we've now been married for 16 years.

I have mercifully been away from the internet for the past few days and so I wasn't aware of this whole nude pic thing until today. Of course there's a lot of misogynist bullshit going on (e.g. the asshole "artist" in this post), but it is kind of heartening to see that a lot of people are taking this a lot more…

And then there was the Sarah Silverman Show. Whoa did they ever address it on that half hour sit-com.

So basically, a bunch of people who are a) looking for anything to ding the President on and b) have no idea what looks good. 'Cause that suit is niiiiice.

It's a summer suit! What don't people understand about that? He's not a goddamn funeral director.

What I'm most fascinated by — and this is not to downplay Sarkeesian's plight at all — is the men who are due to show up here to talk shit to us: about Sarkeesian, about whatever. (By way of example) I don't seek out pro-lifers to troll them, as I know that it will only serve their perverse sense of righteousness. And…

Because men don't experience it.

WHY. WHY are women seen as over-sensitive and "hysterical" and told to calm down about this shit.

> If a male developer pocketed thousands and thousands of dollars through a Kickstarter, you don't think he'd get abuse?

It irks me as well. I was assaulted by a man that tried to rape me and I bit his face and then his tongue off. He was so horrified and his shouts were so satisfying that I have the event recorded in my mind in detail. I go to therapy because I supposedly have ptsd even though I was the victor in the event. I ran this…

Is this flattery, Doree Lewak?

If we could decouple the advice of not getting crazy drunk from the topic of rape prevention, I'd be all for it. I don't think women should be responsible for preventing their own rape. RAPISTS need to be responsible for preventing themselves from BEING RAPISTS and law enforcement and school administration need to be…

How do you cope? Suck it up, go to work, do your job and go home. That's what I've been doing for the last 25 years, despite my job being boring and pointless. And yes, I've tried to leave. Many times. I'd rather be punched in the face for a living. At least that would be over quickly.

Side Note: this is a fundamental problem with the gray system. Good discussion hampered by NO ONE READING/REPLYING TO IT BECAUSE IT'S GRAY!

Not just that. I was kicked rather hard by my older sister when we were kids. I experienced that gut crushing feeling, but also that those gut were being ripped out of my urethra, my legs locked up, unable to move, and just wave after wave of pain. I almost passed out from my diaphragm refusing to move. I could…