Years earlier a gay man that I worked with told me about the time at a club where he was dragged into a toilet cubicle by a random stranger, without consent. Although there was no explicit consent, that was his thing, so he didn’t see it as an issue.

I’ve got a similar-ish story. I remember parts of the night, but not all, and I know I was definitely too drunk to consent. Except, I vividly remember having the internal debate with myself about whether I was gonna go home with the guy or not and very vividly remember telling myself “why the fuck not?”.

There’s a girl I used to be friends with who would get black out drunk while on all kinds of antidepressants. I honestly wasn’t sure how much of her stories were lies or just what she remembered because she was also very manipulative. Anyway, on multiple occasions I saw was with her and she would get heavily involved…

Same! I once woke up after blackout drunk naked in bed with my guy friend. I was completely shocked which freaked him out because he said I acted like normal drunk me, just more aggressive. He knew how much I drank, but I still didn’t blame him.

I want to thank Dr. Salato too, he also saved me from shame.

I have almost the same story. My teen daughter called me at work about this. She deleted all Melanie’s music from our Amazon library, and dumped all the merch in a trash bag. She’s so disappointed!

Ironically, it’s whay reminds me we’re all just people, in it together

I am an old (45) and would not know of her but for my bisexual 13-year-old daughter, who really looked up to her, went to see her at Pride STL, bought a t-shirt of hers at Hot Topic, and told me about this story today before I read it on Jezebel. She also said she is now going to “burn the shirt”.

Melanie Martinez is my favorite artist. FRankly im not the type to learn everything about celebs and stalk them or anything. (just like music & stuff)

My best friend growing up sounds like this molester. She used me and touched me and every male companion that I had as much as possible because she couldn’t handle rejection or any attention I got. 6 men have come out against her. I can’t even talk about it to people because no one takes women seriously and no one…

I’m 25 and I have no idea who she is. The only thing that seems to draw me in these days is decades old folk rock.

Now that we’re actually going to care about consent and what women want as opposed to what we will let you get away with, we should probably talk about lesbians a little. Part of the popular lesbian mythology is that straight girls will come to their senses if you’re patient enough, or persistent enough. You can even…

It can also be hard to come forward in a small community, like the LGBT community, because everything is so intertwined. In my hometown, there was a guy who had “inappropriate relationships” with some of my friends (I don’t know the exact details, but they were coercive and had a huge power differential). None of my…

So, I’m happy (wut?) that this discussion is taking place. As a blackout drunk (i.e. a smallish percentage of people who have giant gaps in their memory after drinking too much, but who were not apparently unconscious during this time) I have “awoken” to both a random dude I apparently picked up in a bar and my best…

Well, not with that best friend, to be sure.

I have to work with a woman who performed oral sex on me without my consent after she offered to designated drive at a work function, and I was passing in and out of consciousness.

This reminds of a woman I used to be kinda friends with.

Sadly, I have been sexually abused by 2 women during our Halloween party about 10 years ago. I was really hammered. I came to when one of the girls boyfriend opened the door and screamed “what the fuck are you doing?!” When I came to, one was kissing me and the other was performing oral sex. These were my friends. If…

An old friend/co-worker of mine was sexually assaulted by our female boss. I was in the room when it happened and at the time we thought what was happening was “crazy and funny”, now I look back and am so grossed out.

I think having Roethlisbeger ask, “You ok?” IS the concussion protocol.