Oh, you’ll forget about that list in a week or so when the next trendy thing to be outraged by comes up.

“You know, I could be sensible and look at this in a precise and nuanced matter...nah i’m gonna just go ahead and call her a racist...*Publish*”

Not really. Madonna and Beyoncé (to name a few)have famously dressed up in French style outfits a la Marie Antoinette. Do they think French culture /people is beneath them for wearing these outfits? No.

“And it’s one thing to think a kimono is hip, it’s another to dress up and situate yourself in a culture that is not your own. “

Cultural appropriation should be spelled with numbers and barks because it has lost all meaning now.

Technically it’s not. We don’t need to compile broader concepts into a single dog whistle. Can’t we just call a system of racial oppression a system of racial oppression?

there was some stink in China and Japan about Zhang Ziyi in Memoirs of a Geisha 

I did have a fight with my sisters about it once because I couldn’t stand it anymore (although I should have handled it in a better way) but ultimately I love my sisters and they are a good support in a way. After all we shared the same childhood. I just think we are conditioned, as women, to always forgive and “be…

Yup! Finally disowned lots of family this year. Fuck feeling guilty, that shit is freeing af. I don’t owe them shit.

The daughter really captured it. As a person who was subjected to cruel, emotionally violent parenting, I wholeheartedly agree that concern would have been appreciated at any point during said terrible childhood.

You are so right. I was lucky that my mother (the main custodial parent) was the “unfun” one who insisted on vegetables, chores, and bedtimes. My father and his wife thought they were those parents—very firm believers in “discipline” and “respecting your elders”—but instead it was a lot of judgment, disrespect, and…

The part that really resonated with me was his daughter saying it would have been nice to have everyone’s concern when she was a child. I remember so many times being told my abusive mother was “a saint” and wondering what was wrong with me.

My God, this spoke to me. My father was extremely neglectful after my mother died and I grew up so pained by it all. Now I’m in my 30s, still putting off motherhood and just focusing on nurturing that little girl. I’ve never been able to put my feelings into words but this is it. Thanks.

Reading that was cathartic and I empathize with the daughter. I was abused as a kid and I’m currently trying to negotiate and grapple with both loving my parents and being angry with them. They pretty much refuse to acknowledge the damage and hurt they inflicted and just deflect and guilt trip. It is not helpful when…

LOL, okay bud.

Power exists in many places. You have the power to hate and discriminate. When you use that power to direct hatred or discriminate against someone because of their race you are racist. Anyone can be racist.

Male or female?

Racism can only be perpetuated by those in positions of power. As a black woman, I am most definitely not on the top of the hierarchical scale.

Former vet nurse and cat behaviorist here.

I’m Arab and middle/lower-middle class. You’re probably racist or classist or both.