My wife has an extensive dildo collection. When we first started dating (early 20s) she would wash them in the kitchen and just keep them in the drying rack. I said “you know, why don’t you dry them in the tub behind the curtain or something”. She said “cause nobody visits my apartment but you”. Fast forward a few…

Thanks! And yes, not Kat in this life or the last. ;)

The terminology around how to classify gender dysphoria is on-going process within the psychological community. It is not considered a mental illness like body dysmorphia or depression, by the vast majority of those that study/treat gender dysphoria. It’s a condition that understandably arises when somebody’s gender…

They provide “elective” treatment in prisons, like knee/hip replacements when the condition causes extreme pain. Gender dysphoria causes extreme psychological distress. Prison psychologists have recommended treatment. Why should it not be medically treated?

The whole thing is very Seattle-like. We like to think we’re post-racial when the truth is 1. It’s easy to have great white/black relations when there are way more white/non-black residents than black residents. 2. Even easier when that incredible minority of black residents live in concentrated communities rendering…

I’m a transgender man and the change in expectations and interactions is a trip.

Yeah, oppression is intersectional AND context specific. There are times, places and situations (e.g. like running to the bus stop because you are late) where being a black woman would be easier than being a black man. Being irrationally feared has complicated consequences. Sure, you could say being a black woman has…

I like it. I’ll bust this out next time we are arguing about our theoretical son.

Hot-take middle name poll: Stellar as masculine Stella (again, middle name only).

Eh, the “smart money” whether it has insight or not will always try to take advantage of inefficiencies in the market. The idea that the dreamers, gamblers, cheaters and grinders will decide to settle for Vanguard S&P 500 seems a little ridiculous IMO.

The men’s Olympic limit for testosterone is 270-1070 ng/Dl. This is the guideline transgender men taking external testosterone must follow to qualify. However, many men naturally are over that 1070 limit. Should transgender men be able to increase it to the upper ceiling of testosterone of the athletes competing?…

Oh, yes, no blood has ever been shed in the name of Jesus, and priests/pastors have never raped little boys. Have a trolltastic time on Jezebel.

“Persons of color” is preferred by many minority activists and activist organizations. You clearly are not active or even allied in the issues that matter to ethnic and racial minorities.

When you say the data is not there that sounds like a comprehensive in dismissal. Are you involved in the research or the funding side? Or would you like me to ask my wife if any of the research she’s reviewed or done that has convinced her is published, and point you to a link? Also, I’d say since the activity of…

1. How do you reconcile these: “...I have way too much experience to just trust any research” and “I think everyone needs to do a lot more research.”

Yes, we are still talking past each other. As I admitted, it’s not a perfect analogy, but I’m trying to illustrate gender dysphoria. Think of being trans as having a cartilage problem with your knee. It’s a yes/no thing, you can see it with an x-ray. Think of gender dysphoria as the pain caused by said knee problem.…

I’m responding to you saying that I am calling most transgender people mentally ill, which I’m not. It was a perfectly reasonable clarification as to suggest I am calling trans people mentally ill by talking about gender dysphoria means you don’t understand what gender dysphoria is even. I’m not making a strawman or…

‘The American Psychiatric Association, publisher of the DSM-5, states that “gender nonconformity is not in itself a mental disorder. The critical element of gender dysphoria is the presence of clinically significant distress associated with the condition.”’ - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_dy…

No, transgender is not a mental illness. However, gender dysphoria is a condition highly correlated with being transgender. Most transgender have some form of gender dysphoria, and again, symptoms and severity differ. Every gender dysphoric person decides the best treatment for them in collaboration with their doctor.

Symptoms/severity of gender dysphoria vary among people. Incredibly simplified, but think of knee replacements. You get to elect in collaboration with your doctor if/when your pain threshold and mobility requires a knee replacement. Just because your coworker has decided a cane, glucosamine, and occasionally pain…