But again, this story was not from Florida, Georgia, Mississippi but New Jersey. IT WAS FROM NEW JERSEY. And then to say it’s a southern thing??? That takes an amazing amount of transference to lay that at the South. My point is that it’s just lazy to point a finger at my asshole region (Florida).

Actually, many of us would have. This terrible incident happened in a Northeast state. Don’t put it on us. We have enough fucked up things to answer for—civil war, willing to die to protect the right to own other human beings, slavery. Dismissing racism as inherently Southern is not accurate. If it were, we would not…

Thank you Raquel for kindly expressing your narrative which is that of many trans-women. I also appreciate that you are not denouncing Chimamanda for expressing her thoughts on this topic as you acknowledge the vernacular used was evasive.

There has been a ton written about the intersection of patriarchy and white supremacy, and the fact that black men are disproportionately imprisoned and/or killed and/or otherwise absent does not mean that black culture(s) are matriarchies.

If you can’t see plainly from the world around you that patriarchy benefits men, on the whole, and harms women, I’m not sure I can help you. The “disposable men” claim is a flawed one—it looks at how certain groups of men suffer, and misattributes their suffering to their gender, when in reality, it’s usually…

This is veering dangerously close to false equivalency. Men and women both suffer under patriarchy, yes, but they don’t suffer equally. Patriarchy, on the whole, benefits men as a class.

Nope. Feminist criticism and gender studies have been talking about how patriarchy and toxic gender expectations are also damaging to men for a very long time.

This isn’t a debate.

What makes you a woman or a man? If it’s not genetics, or the way society treats you, is it a gut feeling that it’s what you are? When you look at people like Kaitlynn Jenner (not the representative of all trans women) who speak about make up and high heels as being the essence of woman hood, it makes me wonder if…

Gurl, I know his type coming and going.

Based on what he wrote, I just assumed he’d be one of those masc guys that thinks a good gay is indistinguishable from the straights. So I was surprised. Good for him for feeling morally superior while walking around in stilettos and thongs, I suppose. That’s progress of a sort.

Well, he looks comfortable? I love a good breeze. Some of us just prefer the caftan life.

I legit guffawed at this.

I saw his handwriting all the time on various draft documents we collaborated on. It was amazing. It was like reading drafts of the Constitution or Declaration of Independence, every day. Letters of Marque and Reprisal, Commissions, Ambassadorial appointments, and all Matters of Public Record could be recorded by Gary…

Watch Duck Dynasty with the sound off?

“That’s the magic of Fire Island, you bond with people that you wouldn’t normally bond with.”

Never seen the show but do they show any bears? Its so very important that diversity is shown in shows like this. I want to see a show about southern gay redneck bears, where is it???

Of course, nothing gay about two Army officers vacationing at Fire Island and lunching at a seaside bistro, admiring eachother’s handwriting. 

i’m pretty sure the man who wrote that Advocate article LITERALLY walks around the West Hollywood Equinox shirtless in a pair of lycra booty shorts.

I remember going there once in the off-season, not quite winter but not quite spring either, because my friend Gary liked a particular sandwich at some nearby seaside bistro. We had been lieutenants together in the Army and I remember he had the most beautiful handwriting imaginable, Thomas Jeffersonesque in its…