I have a six-year-old and we live in Queens. YES, we send her to a private school, but it's NOWHERE NEAR $40K/year. Her tuition is $4,500 a year and I pay $65/week for before and after school care. I love the school, but it was really a scheduling decision for us—the public school, which is very good, only has after…

41 in the house! Oh yeah, I'm so much calmer now than I was in my 20s. I prefer being in my 40s, except for the "getting older" part. :-)

I started contributing the moment I could and I've amassed a decent chunk at the age of 41. When I was starting out in my career and broke, I would up my contribution percentage every time I got a raise so it wouldn't hurt. Now, I'm putting in 12% of my salary and get 3% from my employer on top of that.

I'm in Queens, and I found a woman who watched my daughter for $30/day. I felt so guilty that I kept giving her raises and she ended up at $50/day ($250/week). We paid her every single day M-F, holidays, sick days, vacations, whatever. But yeah, it was a total bargain. And we still keep in touch—she loves my daughter…

One minor quibble, the proposal isn't about subsidizing, it's about loans. But you are right, even $25K ends up being much, much more than that, as parents are probably being charged for before school/after school care (or hiring a part-time nanny), various fees, trips, etc. And if the school isn't year-round, they're…

I was the one who moved. We dated long distance (Chicago-New York) for a year. We didn't have much discussion around who would move—I was fairly recently divorced, looking for a change, and he is born and bred NY.

Thanks for the info. :-)

All of the countries where the Queen is head of state have agreed to this, though. Not sure what difference it would make if the other members didn't follow along...?

Nah, they got rid of that in 2011. I would have like a girl, she would have been the first one legitimately in line for the crown regardless of the gender of future siblings.

That's not dancing, that's magic!!!

Husband has a backful. Fuzzy and comforting.

My dad desperately didn't want me to go to Mumbai last month, because he applied all of the press from the last several months to the entire country. I felt *very* safe in Mumbai. I was on business, but had an apartment and wandered around some by myself. I did notice that there seems to be quite a bit of north/south…

My dad is a former Oscar Mayer guy. Thirty years ago he had to drive the Wienermobile from Sherman, TX down to somewhere near Dallas. I got to be the passenger and it was a really cool experience for 11-year-old me. Everyone on the highway honked and waved at the Wienermobile! Met Little Oscar too. :-)

I received a note last year from my daughter's pre-k teacher. After trying to lock the bathroom stall door, my daughter loudly proclaimed "this fucking lock doesn't work!" Props to the kid, the context was appropriate, but had to nip her use of that word in the bud. And last week, I just went through why it's OK for…

I live in the States but I'm now going to refer to myself as a wealthy Brit!

Yeah, I think that's pretty common. Had I stayed, I would have gotten the promotion anyway (I'm 95% certain) but probably would have been a bit below what I'm getting now in terms of base. Sometimes distance really does make the heart grow fonder, on both sides!

Not really a war story, but I was totally burned out at my last job and took the first offer that came my way. Bad idea—bad cultural fit, and it was my first experience as management. My direct reports are remote which has made it very difficult, and I've found I don't enjoy management. My old company approached me…

Women have already reached out to their communities for reassurance and tips. Only now, it's possible for it to be on the interwebz. I'm in a private FB group with 80 or 90 women who were all due the same month of the same year—we originally were an iVillage group. It's morphed into a community where we talk about…

The scientists aren't drawing any conclusions whatsoever, just stating what they have found. It's the barium dating method that has them excited and they are intending to use it with other samples. The media is, of course, twisting this in a way that the scientists are not.

I am also An Old in possession of a kindergartner. :-) Her school mandates uniforms from K-8, doesn't apply to nursery and pre-K. I LOVE IT. We don't have to think at all about what she wears to school each day. The school should design the policy so that it's not mandated that every piece come from Flynn & O'Hara or…