Take him shopping.  I know if a lady friend of mine said, 'Hey, you said you were having trouble on dates, and you probably hate shopping but I'd have fun (lie if you have to) picking out some stuff for you.  I think it'd help.'

@avclub-2ac233bc53744593f485e5752aaa692a:disqus eh.  If you didn't message them, they should have gotten the message loud and clear.  A lack of communication can, in some situations, be plenty expressive.

Aw, thanks @avclub-8dd007f4a97be79c135c67999bf5b27e:disqus and @LJo1:disqus .  Y'all are sweet.  I'm sure your SOs know they're lucky.

Counter-counter-counterpoint: Ellie is a lady.  I think that women would be more comfortable messaging a guy when they can see what he looks like.  If I didn't put a photo up, I'd feel like a creeper.

That's only making him happier.

I used to do that and follow it up by saying 'It's magiiiiic!' and waggle my fingers jazz-hands style.

Done!

If you don't want to message them on your phone, you probably wouldn't want to message them on your computer.

Thanks, Ellie.

Good for you, Hat.

Reasons to let them grow:

We must have talked about this during calculus class in high school.

He's trying too hard.

Good advice.  Thanks.

Agreed.  I'm not sure how to say 'Hey sometimes I have to travel on short notice for work and I like going on adventures and I have fun hobbies, but sometimes I'm just going to want to stay home and read or geek out over something very nerdy that you probably won't find interesting, in which case I would hope you…

Until I was nineteen, I thought that 95% of all people could be smart if they just tried hard enough.  Stupidity, I thought, was a function of sloth.

I think I'm going to give in and join a dating site.

On the 'note from the AVClub' article last week, someone said it would be continuing.

In Phoenix?

You need to start dating different women, @avclub-16db446cafb1ffb1466e71eaf97a4f49:disqus .  It doesn't have to look like that.