"We, the schlumps from Schlump Swamp (which is absolutely beautiful this time of year — you should fly there) will stop traveling in our scrubbiest clothes when airports stop treating us like human garbage."

your analogy is flawed. and you should feel bad.

ever hear the joke, "it's always the last place you look" about finding something lost? well, every relationship will end, until one doesn't. and i mean, even then it ends. a good relationship ends in one of the participants' death. that's "winning" at monogamy. yay?

if it's a joke, at whose expense? they seem like awful, unfunny people who need to be lonely for quite a bit longer.

that's really great! i wish there had been talk of this when i was younger. the status quo of women who are supposed to be reluctant/passive/ashamed can lead a lot of people to do things that may not be criminal, but may also not be the best choice for them. the better you know yourself, the better the sex will be.

perhaps you are needlessly hair-splitting. enthusiastic consent does not actually mean rah-rah pom-poms and coordinated cheering "gimme a Y! gimme an E! gimme an S! YES YES YES"

then don't have sex with them until they mature enough to communicate their desires. or, risk raping them. your choice.

It doesn't have to be verbal. And the requests don't have to be mortifying.

I said without it, you are doing it wrong, not you are doing it illegally.

I'm pretty sure the law doesn't require the inclusion of multiple !!!s or anything, so it'll be ok.

I agree. But laws are an important codification of the larger social conversation.

yes, that's unhealthy. you should figure that out.

no, it needn't be verbal, in this law or any other. but it must be clearly communicated. verbally or non-verbally.

well, they're wrong, and social movements like this help show them that they were previously misinformed. sexual assault and STDs are rampant in senior communities because of this kind of misinformation. the poorest and most disenfranchised communities are also often taught not to speak up, leading to exploitation.…

hmmm... no. if a person is too shy to say "yes" unprompted, or in response to a specific prompt, they aren't mature enough to be having sex. they can go to therapy until they're ready to own what they want, and communicate it effectively.

if you're not getting enthusiastic consent, you aren't doing it right.

lindy no

juggling. fire-eating. human blockhead.

I've only gone that far once, and the mom definitely thought I was an insane psycho but she was also mortified so I call it a win. It was totally worth it.

You don't even have to send it to his mom, just show him you could. Although tbh I am all for a new craze of mom-shaming these guys into acting right.