why not? Your criticism is as meaningless to her as mine is to you. It's ab important argument that needs to be spearheaded by someone who is affected by this. Which she is, and you, are. not.

why not? Your criticism is as meaningless to her as mine is to you. It's ab important argument that needs to be spearheaded by someone who is affected by this. Which she is, and you, are. not.

you are the one who needs to pipe down.

should people who are still benefiting from a culture or privilege based on the racism of their now-dead ancestors, have to pay for the sins of their ancestors? yeah probably. not like in a "you're gonna pay!" kinda way, but maybe stop getting a leg up, which, if you ask middle america, taking away their head start is…

brits are super-weird about classism. it's like trying to talk to a southerner about racism. it's a different kind of conversation.

what is?

if you can't figure out how to get this info on your own or wait for your SO to slip up and leave themselves logged in somewhere, you DESERVE to get cheated on.

honestly, how is this relevant? "the idea is the same" as people lying about weight or height online, or lying about income, wearing a watch they can't really afford, pretending to like music they don't like to impress someone, lots of things, and you went with MAKEUP?

You're moving the goalposts. Do these sweet shy souls use the term. " friendzoned "? If no, THEN WE AREN 'T TALKING ABOUT THEM. If yes , whether they realize it or not , they are being assholes and blaming the other party for their own mistakes + probability. Being shy is not a free pass on also being an asshole.

Loveshy people can be assholes too. And if after a rejection , they turn it around and blame the rejector by saying she "friendzoned " them , then they are assholes. If they aren't assholes, they see and describe it to others as an unfortunate venture which just didn't pan out, at least in part, because of their own…

starting a fire

My guess is that, in an overall sense, some women are more mature than men of the same age ? Or it's a byproduct of a patriarchal society that urges women to be the passive receptor of romantic advances AND discourages men from cultivating emotionally deep platonic friendships. Women are taught to look externally for…

I agree, it is about saving face, but that is done by absconding responsibility for taking the risk.
It's just shitty from the other's POV. All the other comments are about women who've been BLINDSIDED. No idea their "friend" had an ulterior motive, and feel deceived by that revelation.

the article hints that is is wrong to be interested in someone as a lover, but not friend, but present oneself as a friend, hoping it will evolve into a romantic relationship AND not be ok with it if it doesn't work out that way. it's not about people who are up front about their intentions or realistic about their…

first of all i consider "unrequited love" a silly, immature concept in itself. unrequited infatuation, let's call it, because that ain't what love is. so yes, i would always prefer to be told up front about an infatuation. if an infatuation develops from a pre-existing friendship, it should be discussed (assuming both…

the term is aggressive, because of the object-subject implication. "SHE friendzoned ME." "i was put in the friendzone BY HER." "i've been friendzoned." these are all actions which have happened TO the man, who is the object, or victim (may be a strong term, but the do-ee, the object of the action). there is no…

yes, it's wrong of you, because these women want some men as romantic potentials and some men as friends, and some men as sexual partners, and you want women only as potential sexual or romantic partners, and never as friends. that is sad and wrong of you. you are humaning incorrectly.

even if it is genuine, the minute that a guy uses the term "friendzone" they are blaming their mistakes on the the other party. it's an aggressive concept. they are the victim of being friendzoned by someone else. there's no accountability there, no growth, no empathy, just blame.

could you, instead, spent 1/10th as much of your time, trying to empathize with the women? we get it, you can identify with the rejected guy. wow - what a stretch for you, the formerly-rejected guy. why don't YOU spend some time thinking about it from the WOMAN'S perspective instead? how must it feel to think someone…

you're seriously disturbed.