i hear you, sister. tell it.

i can't update my ios for fear that it'll reset my candy crush. i'm at 305. i can't give this up. this is all i have now. this is my life.

personally i love to feel needed. even though i am very independent and perfectly self-sufficient (perhaps to a fault at times), i do not understand the stereotypical free-spirit "eccch so needy, stop needing me" thing. it feels great to be needed, and to know that someone has your back when you're the one with needs.

you are not equipped to judge your personality either as delightful or as boring, that is for other people to decide. and you are not communicating any delight whatsoever to the outside observer.

but a lot of rapists do not consider themselves rapists or consider what they've done rape or non-consensual. telling guys "hey don't feel up that passed-out girl, that's sexual assault" is MANY times met with "wtf are you talking about, no it's not."

you must be delightful at parties.

i had a roommate like this in college. the worst part was - it worked. she had her men wrapped around her finger. i could never understand it. she controlled everything, their wardrobe, their comings and goings, their wallet, their phone records, their class schedule, everything. and SHE was the one who claimed the…

i'd agree with that, but with the caveat PERCEIVED insecurity. if one person can tell the other is less secure than they are, or EXPLOIT that perceived imbalance, then we get into these situations. i've often had friends in their first serious relationships assume that a certain level of contact, daily or multi-daily,…

yeah, maybe your cousin is That Girl, if we're redefining That Girl to mean scary stalker control freak.

exactly. ideally both people are aware of their needs and having them met. but if one either has fewer needs, or convinces the other that they have fewer needs, there is a power dynamic, one of "well look, i'm doing you a favor here already, so, i'm calling the shots."

i've met women who complained about "clingy" men. it's really just about who has the upper hand in the relationship by caring less. the vast majority of the time in hetero love, that person is the male. whoever is needed versus who has needs

"ugh but i get so tired of hearing about it" is pretty much the definition of privledge. yes, that could be annoying. boo-hoo, mild irritation.

it could be more optimistic than i think. sometimes. but i think majority of the neutral reactions she's gotten are of the "hey, i didn't do it, don't look at me, your problem, not mine," or really, let's be honest here, at worst, alot of face-to-face reactions she's gotten are truly "they said you are pretty, why is…

"i don't support sexism, think this is awful but i have nothing to contribute to the conversation" is code for "i'm just placating you, i honestly don't see anything wrong with any of this and am unwilling to learn and would like this conversation to go away please."

you forgot "drop hints that you are buying really expensive holiday presents" tis the season for getting.

then y u mad bro?

u mad bro?

"Monogamy is an unnatural state. Deal with it." he said, on the internet.

i guarantee you this guy's real fantasy is to get stepped on and pegged. by a woman who looks like his mother.

it's usually more like "did he think X would rock your world?" "YES why does he think that works OMG" "could you ever convince him to try Y?" "no, more power to you." or similar. no one gossip-brags. it's gossip-being-weirded-out. have had boyfriends perfect in every other way who were horrible kissers. the next girl…