thank you!

got it. have a good one.

yes, i have, thanks tho. good conversation.

you don't see any connection? if i had a thing called a Cookie Monster which eats cookies, would you believe me if i said it was NOT a reference to that other, well-known Cookie Monster, since they eat different kinds of cookies?

but "Lolita" is not a name that has any relevance to anything Victorian either...

but it is a reference to the novel, yes? or is it a reference to something else which is a reference to the novel? or something completely separate from the novel?

but then why is it called "Lolita" if it isn't meant to be about sexualization of a minor?

i'll put it this way. if you've had more sexual partners than you have fingers, and they were all one race, and there are not special circumstances like you are stranded on a racially-segregated planet, then you really gotta ask yourself why that is, and what it means, and examine your own prejudices, OR, don't wonder…

"When you wrote, 'Dear Sir, you are racist.' It looks like you think this guy is unique in any way." no, it doesn't look like i think that, because i don't, and nothing i wrote suggests i do think that. you misinterpreted... and yes, the attitude is really common. racism is really common.

maybe you don't use it enough.

yes, your friends are racist. i never said anything about not talking to them again or calling them "vile" or "worthless" or whatever else you are inventing. i'm not "condemning" anyone, i'm describing people accurately.

all the people who put this on their profiles are racist too. there being a whole lotta racists doesn't make any one of them any less racist. and taking a "tempered approach" to a pervasive problem just sounds like pandering to a whole lotta racists to me.

dear sir, you racist.

inappropriate, Jezebel. SMH.

"Leathers' actions are hurtful to people who did nothing wrong — like Weiner's wife and son —" if she were making this up, sure. but in reality, it is WEINER's actions which are hurtful to his wife and son. Sydney Leathers will be out of the news within 36 hours, and nothing she has to say in her 72 hours of…

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rewatching Little Mermaid as an adult, I root for Ursula the whole time.

agreed. give it a little flavor a little glimpse of the personality, just enough for the RIGHT kind of people to want to learn more, and then move it to in-person sooner rather than later. no point in getting your mutual hopes up about imagined, idealized internet-persons with whom there turns out to be 0 chemistry.

what you DO write should be well-articulated, of course, and proofread by someone else.