In the third year of my marriage to my husband, I slept with his best friend. It wasn’t emotional.

yeah just start over. Most marriages end in divorce, even if NO one cheats.

Based on the “if i lose weight I might want to cheat again” comment, she is definitely not over it.

Except it sounds like they’ve had an okay relationship otherwise.

Was going to reply with this sentiment. Sounds like she got over it immediately, and that made it worse for the guy. Imagine if she actually told him “John, I was just trying to find self-worth through the male gaze!” Yikes.

This might be unfair, but one of the things that bothers me most about the woman writing this is that she wastes a lot of words explaining why the cheating happened and why the weight loss won’t happen without just taking responsibility for it. It’s okay to say ‘I fucked up’ without trying to shift the blame to some…

Yeah, the fact that she glided past her cheating in one sentence and devoted several paragraphs to his resentment tells me she’s no more eager to revisit this than he is.

Once a cheater, always a cheater. She’s still a cheater, and still can’t be trusted. The guy probably kicks himself to this day about not kicking her to the curb immediately. And now he’s trapped.

It’s pretty clear she was a total mess.

Yeah, it’s probably tough for some people to hear, but there are levels of events that can’t be “healed”, and asking someone to “just get over it” or “work through it” is being kind of ridiculous. I applaud her for being honest, but expecting him to just get over it is a bit much. I guess you could blame him for not…

Yea it’s done. He isn’t getting over it and her first thought if she lost weight was, “Oh no, what if I look good enough to sleep with other guys again?” None of this is going to end well. Pull the plug.

That marriage should never have happened.

Yup. You can never rebuild. Only a matter of time before that shit explodes.

In the third year of my marriage to my husband, I slept with his best friend.

It happened once and was a culmination of several factors (finding my worth through the male gaze, thinking that I needed to test his love for me by hurting them, several other small reasons that don’t really matter in the end).

I would love to pick the brain of a person who thinks sleeping with your husbands best friend is a smart idea.

Nothing wrong with pointing out an actual error.

I think you mean Obama’s two terms in office, not to be that guy tho.

And if another asshole from the northeast who spends most of his time playing childish games realized he didn’t belong in the White House either we wouldn’t be in this situation.

I could maybe do a threesome, but she’s afraid she would get jealous, and I get that if I’m present in any capacity it could present problems for her exploration of herself.