I am a bisexual woman in a monogamous marriage with a man, and I can say firsthand that it SUCKS SO MUCH being uncomfortable speaking to friends and family about the fact that no, they really should not take it as a given that you're straight - or that anyone is. When I'm around my family, I feel like a huge portion…

I don't think she's obligated to tell anyone she doesn't want to tell; Prudie's advice sucks because Prudie's acting like telling her parents she's bisexual is TMI and equating it to telling them about her sexual fetishes.

I can't tell if you're responding to the initial letter or the follow-up, but coming from A Bisexual Person (And Therefore The Expert, you're implying?) this perspective seems awfully bi-erasey for Other Bisexual People who wind up in monogamous, opposite-/other-sex relationships.

Your sexual orientation isn't defined just by who you have sex with.

because *newsflash* being bisexual doesn't mean you want to sleep with everybody, it just means you are attracted to both men and women. And that is as much a part of this women's identity as a gay or straight person so why should she stay in a closet?

Because she doesn't want to hide part of herself from people she knows? Because she wants to help remedy the issue of bisexual erasure?

Prudence's advice is intricately tied to issues of bisexual visibility. THIS is why people think bisexuality is a phase- you might be into men and women but since you're married monogamously to a dude, let's go ahead and pretend you're straight!

I can't wait for Size 007: for the deadly, debonair debutante.

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