No kidding. I sure as hell don't feel hip when I'm walking in or out. I just need some screens and cleaner, ya know?

I don't think it's racist, and I'm pretty sensitive to racism. I could be wrong, but I read it as him saying "why are you comparing me to someone who's not culturally relevant like me."

I've read his blog and dude seems like an arrogant, narcissistic jerk with a huge stick up his ass. That was a jerkass response and totally uncalled for.

Depression feels shameful and it makes people feel weak. A lot people don't want to talk about their depression with their friends and loved ones. They want to do normal stuff and feel normal for a little while. Forcing people to talk about it doesn't help. The best you can do is encourage him to get professional help…

There was another commenter who mentioned love languages, and they're different for everyone. My love language is time and personal energy. If I show up in person for someone, it means I really care, and it's really meaningful for people I love to do the same. Some people's love language is gifts, and that's ok. It's…

Yeah, those who attract it are those who create it. Non-drama people catch on pretty fast and run away. That's not to say people want it when they get into it with a dramatist, but I think it takes some experience to see it coming.

Yes there may be women out there like that, but there are also men who attract them through their behavior. I avoid the "no drama" guys like the plague, because that's their status quo. If you have to say "no drama" it's because you're attracting drama.

So...like...none of the greys get that this is satire? Seriously dudes...I don't give a crap what makes your dick happy. Not About You.

I can see where you're coming from, and I certainly think it's very kind to give a gift. I give gifts. But I've also been in a position where I have barely had enought to eat, and making something wasn't feasible either. I had nothing to spare. Yet I still wanted to see my friends and my family get married, support…

That attitude is incredibly entitled and greedy. Are you seriously saying if you can't afford a gift, don't go to the wedding? Sorry (not sorry) but that's bullshit. Weddings are not about gifts. They're about having the people you care about witness a commitment to another person. Gifts were originally about helping…

I totally agree. I really don't get it.

Ehhh...I don't have any issue with the slow fade. I've gotten so many craptacular reactions when I've been upfront and said "hey..sorry...not working out" so if something is casual, I fade. I don't do the whole "yeah let's get together" and flake out, though. So I guess I ghost more than fade. I've also been faded on…

Uhh...yeah. Sometimes you need to hydrate. And sometimes you gotta pee. Your dude sounds like he's hasn't had a lot of experience.

Maybe she just doesn't want to be friends with you or the other roommate. When someone here says "I'm not here to make friends" (or some variation) it usually means "I don't enjoy socializing with random people doing things I don't enjoy for the sake of being social." I never wanted to go out with my dorm roommates…

People go to college to get an education. People live in dorms because they're often subsidised housing and cheaper/easier than living off campus. People have all sorts of reasons for doing things, none of which you need to understand if it doesn't really affect you.

Thanks.

is it just because everyone around me has the relationship/house/kids and I feel judged?

I really want to be happy doing what I'm doing right now. And I am happy. But it's that creeping sense of "well now what?" Aaaaagh! Time to work on staying present, ya know?

I'm so ambivalent about dating. I'm really focused on my career, but I'm also a little bit lonely. I've started feeling the urge to find companionship again, but it's so nice to never have to be concerned about sharing my time or my space. Getting used to working again is really draining, plus I hate online dating, so…

Yeah. I'm not an online dating person. I've met plenty of guys and don't have problems getting dates, but it's not for me. I even checked out How About We and it seemed pretty wretched.