Words of advice? Have fun, but don't get attached. Your description raises so many red flags, and I don't think your concern is superficial in the slightest.

the guy acted like there was seriously nothing wrong with using someone else's photo.

Oh there will be so many details.

If we have chemistry, his mind will be blown. BLOWN I TELL YOU! Numbers have been exchanged and we will see what happens.

Oh I am planning to hit it hard if the stars align. Bombomchickabom.

Oh...because he's 16 years younger than me...lol. But whatever. He's hot.

A stupid hot (not stupid and hot, but so hot it's stupid) 26 y/o guy emailed today on the old OKC and was actually very sweet. I am going to bend my rules on this one, because I would really just like to have some stupid hot sexy fun.

Thank you - that was excellent. It's hard to explain both the sense of tribal connection in which you take stupid shit like this very personally, as well as the sense of "this makes all of us look terrible." Not to mention the very real consequences of shaming, shunning, harassment and personal violence that women in…

I really don't know. I'm completely secular and don't have enough knowledge of rabbinic law to say either way.

Lol you are absolutely right about that. Jews tend to take it very personally amongst ourselves. Even the most secular, non-religious of us have a sense of tribal, familial connection that makes us one huge family that argues all the fucking time.

Oh I know. Not all Orthodox are like that - it's a small ultra-orthodox sect. I think maybe every religion has it's reasons to say to extremists "you should KNOW BETTER!" But we seem to have such a big fucking one. I know so many Jews who are horribly racist and misogynistic and it drives me up a fucking wall. We, of…

Yep. Nailed it.

Same here. I don't see the point, unless we're specifically talking about spirituality.

I think that's kind of the point. It's supposed to be loud, messy and brash. I remember going through the ZOMG SEX discovery in my early 20s, when I began to claim what I wanted for my pleasure. It was stupid and messy and crazy and powerful and exhilarating, often all at the same time. The video reminds me of that…

I went to a Humanistic temple growing up, and that's not what it was, at all. Other congregations and other rabbis were a little more spiritual, but mine was a hardcore atheist libertarian. It was weird.

No, it doesn't make a stitch of sense. And the funny thing is, I was raised 100% There Is No God atheist, and now I'm deeply spiritual. But religion doesn't do a fucking thing for me. It makes no damn sense. It's people trying to put rules onto something that is deeply individual and unknowable outside personal…

I was raised atheist, but culturally Jewish. I have very mixed feelings about it all.

I like it. I think it's fun.

And this is why the ultra-orthodox make me ashamed of my people. They think they're the guardians of a sacred tradition, when they're just misogynistic, xenophobic assholes. They are a fucking embarrassment.

He tried to GPS your phone????? Holy crap I missed that the first time. You might want to go to the police with that piece of information.