Getting so angry that you “black out” is not just how people “express themselves to each other.” It’s unhealthy and has a potential to be emotionally abusive. I’m glad you put in the hard work to work through it, but if you really did, you should know that it’s not an acceptable way to “express” yourself to another. I…

I grew up in a culture (South Korea) where it is normal for teens to get plastic surgery - often as a “graduation gift.” It’s why I hate all the kbeauty craze and people acting so awed by it. Behind it is definitely a culture based on racism and misogyny.

She also breezily signed up to work with Woody Allen and got away with a shitty non-apology.

I mean, relationships take work, but if it is really that HARD to be married to someone, don’t be?

As a survivor you should also know when your comments are not helping.

Except you don’t know any of these people, so you can either keep your “pick and choosing” and stfu instead of acting like you have a stake in it. Because if you are wrong, you will have re-victimized yet another person who will have to live with your stupid comment for the rest of their lives. How do you not know…

Maybe she finally felt ready. Does every victim have to have an objective other than “I’m ready now”?

Victims have the right to speak out any time. Stop questioning them. You don’t know when they finally felt like they’re ready. You act like you aren’t victim-blaming and like you’re just “curious” when in reality you could have kept that to yourself without damaging a ton of victims like us who get re-victimized by…

I don’t know if I would call Chrissy a “natural beauty.” Personally, she’s one of those people who benefited greatly from youth and personality, but I don’t get how she was/is a model material.

Don’t be so quick to assume that people who do alter their appearances don’t always “love themselves.” Ironically, it’s people who have to say those snarky things that hate themselves the most.

Honey you’re at the wrong fucking place

Thank you.  Seriously, what about the way he said every man is basically gay and tried to ignored consent?? Gross. Then he tried to backtrack saying that he’s a virgin so he can’t be a predator, and I’m like...

I definitely see that point, but does that also mean that we can’t criticize women since we’re not able to fairly critique women vs men vs other genders? And I also think when it is a clearly despicable trait, like homophobia, that argument doesn’t stand. Unless it morphs into a critique of other things. Because what…

Yeah, all of those excuses are very flimsy. But I suppose if that’s the way you want to believe it, you won’t care and you’ll just go lalalallaahe’sblacknoonecancriticizehim. To me, that’s a different kind of racism - to not allow people to learn and be critiqued by locking their horrible behaviors under the category…

That sounds pretty emotionally abusive.

His sexist, homophobic, transphobic assholery isn’t his “unapologetic blackness.” *eyeroll*

Because in order for “sexism” against men to exist, there needs to be systemic oppression against men, and there isn’t. But I also see both sides. Either way, it’s disgusting - if someone went around talking about loving tight pussies, that’d be gross, right? Same goes for this.

Why is talking about liking small or big or whatever penises okay? Would you be okay if someone went on and on about how much they love tight pussies?

I just thought that because it said “in my opinion it’s mostly hype,” which I took to say that it didn’t work for you so it’s just hype. But I could be wrong. I hope you find something that works for you.

I’m really sorry you’re going through that. I really am. But surely you can see the danger of saying that just because it didn’t work on you, it can’t work for others.