Yes, good point. I didn't mean to say all the people. The people you reference seem deeply horrendous, but I've also known some excellent people who've been in the military.

Thank you. This is outrageous.

Thank you. I can't even.

Thank you so much for commenting. I don't know what else to say. You seem really awesome and I'm so sorry (and angry) for how the military and the people in it treated you.

Literally what are you talking about? Like for real, please learn stuff.

I would strongly suggest that folks head on over to GLAAD's resource page and get your learn on before perpetuating the same oppression you are trying to prevent.

What does "become female" mean?

Thank you! Headline and first sentence. "How not to react to the news that [Chelsea] Manning is transgender" = start by not immediately and repeatedly using the wrong name.

Marriage still comes with legal and financial perks and can be a "good deal" if it's the kind of relationship you're looking for; but I would agree that marrying someone who is looking for a maid/nanny is not a great idea. Stop marrying (or dating) those assholes.

If abuse becomes public knowledge and no one does anything about it, the abuser is emboldened with a sense of impunity and will often escalate. A lot of DV homicides happen after police or courts fail to intervene (Here's just one example... http://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2011/sep/…). Bystander intervention is…

PSA TIME: strangulation/choking is deadly force. There is no reason to ever ever put your hand/s on someone's throat like that in the context of talking, arguing, debating, playfully tiffing, or doing anything, unless you are trying to deprive that person of oxygen and convey the message that you could kill them if…

Yup. This is so so so (so!) typical abuser-splaining. The statement itself makes no sense ("intense debate"/"playful tiff"/"tears+arguing"). The cognitive dissonance is mind boggling. It's dismissive, self-important, and embarrassingly difficult to believe (lots of abusers are unfortunately easy to believe, but that's…

That was amazing— one of many very good recent Twitter moments from Lindy. She's handling this whole shitsuperstorm so fucking well. As hard as this video was to watch, it is the perfect illustration of the dehumanizing effect of all the misogynistic vitriol being flung at her/women who choose to speak. I feel tired…

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Whaaa? Talking and crying are not mutually exclusive. There's a huge difference between a crying tantrum and having tears in your eyes as you wrestle with an emotion like anger (ehem, women-are-socialized-to-sublimate-anger-into-more-passive-ladylike-unbossy-emotions), frustration, or sadness like a "grown-up". I'm no…

This is a fair point, but (good) lawyers also only say what *might* actually work. Part of being a good defense attorney is not overplaying your hand. You don't hear a defender in a mugging of an elderly person saying, "I mean, come on, the old lady was clearly asking for it." A jury (or judge) would not have that. I…

They still did the acts that resulted in her death on the bus, so they did murder her on the bus. How would you have written it?

I'm not shedding any tears for this piece of shit, but due process is important, in part because it goes both ways. Whether this was foul play or suicide, it is a loss for the cause of justice. His death deprives society of the opportunity to see a justice system function and punish a man who raped and murdered a…

This was supposed to be a reply to Malheureuse, who said it well, but this article makes me sad for Jez. Hamilton is simply missing.the.point. in so many ways. Prosthetic genitals are not the enemy of feminists. Quite the opposite. It's great to see options for transwomen (whose place in this conversation is worth…