Here’s the thing: according to every study I have ever seen, women are penalized for being outspoken.They are more often seen as aggressive and rude for it. Here is the first thing that popped up on a random search:

I was apparently some sort of exception to the “doesn’t speak up” rule. As the only woman in International Studies, I not only spoke up in class but often contradicted male students doing the same thing. When it was time to graduate, one of my male peers told me I was “intimidating”. I took it as a compliment, but it…