Men are also socialized to believe that if they want sex, it doesn’t matter if the woman wants it or not.

And men know this already. But if they play dumb, they might get laid anyway. If they acknowledge that they know she doesn’t want to have sex, they won’t.

Because men are socialized to believe that women want sex, but for a variety of reasons, may need “convincing.” And even in these examples, the coercive sex was then followed by consensual sex, reinforcing the shitty behaviour.

why would anyone ever want a sexual partner who “just goes along with it.” Why can’t men ever stop and think, “hey, the person I’m about to have sex with isn’t 1000% into this. That’s gonna make this weird and gross. I’m gonna back off now.”?

Why on *earth* would anyone want to have sex with another person who’s less…

#metoo needs to start pushing for proper education around consent. This shit starts in childhood and is where the fight needs to start. The province of Ontario recently updated its sexual education curriculum to start educating children about consent starting in the first grade. It could probably go farther but I feel…

Why not both kid, but #metoo hasn't even begun to solidify its work in the black-and-white areas yet. 

If you could maybe pass along to her that there are a hell of a lot of Americans that think she’s being incredibly brave and patriotic, I’d appreciate it. If it doesn’t make you feel awkward or anything. It’s just that she’s being a real hero here, and I have a feeling she’s going to need to hear that a lot in the…

I worked with Debbie at a domestic violence shelter (specifically the admin & counseling office). This story captured her so well; she's very thoughtful and reserved, she's really kind and a wonderful ally. We were friendly and would grab happy hour sometimes. I'm heartbroken about the fact that she needed to come…

Clearly Grassley knew well before Dr. Ford came out, because how else could he have cobbled together the 65 “female friends of Kavanaugh” for release immediately after her story was published? And how many guys still even know 65 friends - much less just female friends - from high school at age 53, having gone to an…

I’m his constituent, and the ghost prune is going down. This dude’s been working incredibly damn hard for over a year to protect all kinds of dastardly shit, and he’s so lit up in the spotlight that journalists are going to ask why in the hell he’s doing all this, especially since once upon a time, he was a normal…

When the day comes when men are being gunned down or physically attacked for saying no to a woman, then we’ll talk.

Also, for the record, these types of guys ARE NOT NICE GUYS! They never were! They are at best passive aggressive, but more often than not, just plain aggressive, angry, hostile, sexist, chauvinist, misogynist, etc.... Obviously women can sense this. They reek of hostility which drives women in the opposite direction.

He has a point, though. Famous Guys In Bands have a notorious disadvantage with getting the sex.

I mean, “expression of self” sounds all profound and noble and shit, but like, an asshole expressing themselves is still an asshole. I don’t think “the whole purpose of art” is everyone jerking off to themselves like it’s in any way meaningful or brave. Thinking that your unfiltered expression is “art” because it’s a…

At least one serial rapist. I very much doubt Cosby’s alone.

Once upon a time, the Playboy Mansion was merely a cultural icon of sleaze and female objectification. Once upon a time, it was merely repulsive because of what we imagined was going on inside...

Oh, the stench of earnest irony at being hipster dweebs invited by Hef to the Playboy mansion, playing in the grotto. “We’re so anti-Hollywood that we’ve come back round the other side.”

Seems like it’s so easy to get laid now all these good looking athletic young guys r getting so much free sex it kills me.

“Free sex” ... let me throw up my dinner.

Yes the most direct correlation for me, is to that of the entitled weird guys who blame society and the “norms” for their lack of female attention. “But I’m such a nice guy! Why don’t women understand how I deserve them!”