I really love and agree with what you have to say but it's important to acknowledge: Trauma can absolutely cause mental illness. Is it going to suddenly cause someone to have Bipolar Disorder or Schizophrenia? No. Can it exacerbate those things? Absolutely. Can trauma cause depression, anxiety, PTSD, and even eating…

Quick preemptive strike: 3 thinks about mental health and sex abuse which you should consider before commenting.

It's hard to tell whether this is a legit confession or part of her mental illness. As I recall obsessively Tweeting about people, calling them ugly and accusing them of sexual misconduct was part of the behavior that got her hospitalized in the first place. Her parents are also claiming they've been trying to get her…

I wonder if that may be a typo, because I believe the original article that the author of THIS article takes offense to states that that is the problem with modern parenting. That the "children are the be all and end all of existence" is the problem with modern parenting and ruining marriages and the traditional…

Honestly, I think the key is making your marriage the number one priority. I'm sure it's hard when you have kids, but I think that's the key. But what do I know?

Actually she later admitted that she didn't want to be a parent anymore either, but the ex ran out first so she was stuck. D-bags alllllllllllllllllllll the way around.

The mother is bad, but that dad is the wooooorst.

Sort of related to this, Elisabeth Badinter published an article a while back about how these new types of helicopter/attachment/earth mama parenting - but particularly motherhood - are undoing the advances we've achieved in the last 50 years and basically holding women back but more perversely, through guilt and the…

Thanks. I didn't want to spend any time defending my relationship because what I wrote can be interpreted in different ways, but I was surprised that so few people mentioned that Allen could have left at any time. He is an adult with both agency and the only car in the relationship. I could have been taking the bus…

I like how folks are acting like Allen has absolutely no agency whatsoever. That you restrained him and glued him to his chair in the theater. Nope, if he hated it he could leave. You seem like an adult, or the approximation of one at least. You've been together six years. You both know how far to push and what the…

Good lord, you must not have been married long. Good natured torturing of one's spouse is basically the most fun thing about having one!

There's a lot of people being THAT PERSON here. Also, we don't know enough about their relationship to pass the kind of judgement you're passing. For example, he's "afraid" of their guinea pigs... yet they have guinea pigs. Don't you think that he's using a little bit of hyperbole here?

He does! After seeing the movie he still came to my friend's party the same night and watched me tell jokes.

(Spoiler: It is a very fervent rimjob.)

This is spot-on. Fathers get a frickin' standing ovation for showing anything that resembles giving a shit while mothers can't even acknowledge their need for "me time" at all the first five years. The most good anyone can do for a new mom is look them in the eye, say "you're doing a good job" and force them to go get…

My dad was (and still is in many ways) a dad who falls short. Parenting clearly isn't his forte. But that is okay. I know he would live and die for me too. I have never in my life doubted his love for me. He's very critical and overly involved, but I am still incredibly close to him. At the end of the day, he…

This was such a thoughtful, interesting piece and I agree with so much of it. We say that everyone's experience is different and that we respect that. But the reality is that the way we talk about motherhood is still filled with a host of value judgments that can hinder the way that women grapple with how that…

Selfish irrationality is pretty much the defining characteristic of humans: we constantly and unblinkingly do things that are objectively deleterious and of dubious motivation for the sake of convenience, pleasure, etc. These pants? Probably made with sweatshop or sweatshop-like labor. The coffee I drank earlier?…

I went through hell to have my son. I love him with breathtaking fierceness. He is, without a doubt, my favorite person on this earth. And even with all that parenting is hard and confusing and exhausting. Because of my own childhood I have worked really hard to give my son a foundation of love, trust, and security.…

I'm not a big fan of this argument. There are actions we can take to save the planet and its people that would have a much greater impact than foregoing reproduction. For example, regulating big polluters, instituting a carbon tax, and investing in renewable energy would be big steps for the environment. There is…