I thought the "elaborate for us" thing was a bit obtuse. Pretty clear he meant the rampant misrepresentation of feminism in mass media, perpetrated by its enemies.

Are we really giving an ally a hard time for not understanding the literal definition of feminism and using societal cues from those around him to inform his idea of what it means? Yes, that was a mistake, but he rectified it, and is doing his best to try and be a good ally now.

Looks like Karl Lagerfeld. And that is not a good look.

I knew it. See, ladies! You don't have to be photoshopped to have a disproportionately sized waist! You can just wear a corset at all times and only eat soup. Sounds grand.

Ya, it has very little to do with wanting to be a 'special snowflake'. I'm asexual, and if I really wanted to be a 'special snowflake' I'd be shouting it from the rooftops. But I'm not because frankly I don't how my sexual orientation is anyone else's business. I tell people if it's relevant to our relationship but…

I've lurked here for a long time and finally decided to comment on this piece. For everyone saying we aces are just special snowflakes, well, it's easy to say that labels don't matter when you actually have one.

I'm 36 and just discovered that asexuality is a valid label a couple of years ago. When I was in school, it…

Typically, I don't pick fights, but this is just too much for me at the moment. (Aces, please correct any of my information.)

As an asexual person, some of comments already popping up on this article are extremely disheartening. I spent 20plus years of my life trying to fit in with my peers as they discovered sex and sexuality and so on. I literally felt broken; 'why hasn't it happened to me yet?' The conversations about what one finds…

I'm really tired of the comments here. I've never seen so many disrespectful comments on a feminist site. I, like you, am an asexual cis-woman dating a sexual cis-man. I love him, and I love how respectful he is of me and my sexuality, but I had to go through a lot of crap to get to a happy romantic place where I am…

Yeah, look at the comments about special snowflakes. It's disheartening that this community seems to want to discredit this identity so quickly.

So for the people in the comments who are laughing at the snowflake mentality thing: asexuality is REAL yo. Not for me, I'm absolutely a sexual being, I'm just involuntarily celibate.

The special snowflake comments have already started.

i've heard the exact same thing from gay and lesbian friends about transexuals.

I was correctively raped as a result of being asexual. He was going to "fix" me.

I'm happy to see this article! Of course, I may feel differently after some more comments flow in...

Do I need to get out the asexual erasure bingo cards!

This is really interesting. Thanks Tracy :)

I spent years lusting after an asexual man who at the time didn't/wouldn't make it clear that he was asexual. We'd flirt and it was fun, but it would be great if he had felt safer to come out.

Yesssssss. Wonderful article, Tracy. The idea that non-normative sexual desires, asexuality in particular, are unhealthy seems to be constantly regaining traction. Repeat after me, people: it is not sex-positive to shove your idea of healthy sex down other people's throats. It is not sex positive to presume a lack of…

I am 99% sure I fall into this category. I am glad it's getting more visibility, at least in some circles, but it is still something I struggle with every day. It's basically a constant source of guilt and shame for me, and being constantly bombarded with sex (thanks, society!) makes it that much harder. I was at a…