So because you're not a fan of Nicki, you don't think there should be feminist think pieces about her? Also, calling this a white feminist space dismisses woc (like myself) who comment on here. Are there people here who are guilty of perpetuating white feminist tropes? Absolutely. But just slapping that label on a woc… Read more
I've never been comfortable with feminists criticizing other women for their sexual expression because they sound similar to conservatives who tell women that "modest is hottest" and that a woman is more valuable when she's not showing off her skin, so that's why I'm very protective of women in the industry like Nicki… Read more
The thing that really crushes me is, YES, white people can do better. I'm feeling generous so I will give suggestions: Be open-minded and support stories that have diverse voices (and if the immediate reaction is "oh I just only like shows/movies/music that happen to only have white people in them EXAMINE THE HELL OUT… Read more
YESSSSSSSS so much of the general media conversation will end up being diverted back to white people because that's the dominant voice. Why not be a decent person who, rather than eclipse the voices of black people, uses that voice to call out other not-so-great white folk? It's like that Tuohy article and her using… Read more
Here's the thing: as a fairly young PoC, I've really struggled with the idea of wanting my (majority) white friends to back me up all the times I've encountered racism, especially growing up. They rarely did, but I don't think that they're better or worse than those who shout about their allyness on Facebook, if that… Read more
But maybe white voices aren't the most important voices in this battle? Maybe getting shutdown is an opportunity to just sit back, shutup, and listen? Maybe you don't know as much about these issues as the people who are actually living them and maybe you should use your privilege to elevate the words of PoC's instead… Read more
Every time I read an article explaining how white people who think they are helping really aren't... this is the response from so many white people. "I don't know what to do then, maybe I should just do nothing?" If we stay inactive with the excuse of "not accidentally making things worse," we're letting the racist… Read more
YES. Sometimes expressing empathy means lifting the voices of the silenced. Sometimes expressing solidarity is best done by boosting the signals society seems fit to ignore. Each to their abilities and resources - and this commenter has the resource of priviliege. Being asked to use it thoughtfully is not being told… Read more
Thank you for sharing that point; it's a great one. I'm going to keep Ms. Bennett's piece and share it with my students this spring.
You're absolutely right. I'm not trying to absolve myself, and I apologize if I came off that way. I'm just trying to understand a distinction that I see as existing.
I think you may have missed the point: "good white people" are those who believe their good intentions trump the effects of their biases on black people's experiences. You are being defensive and seem to be asking for credit for not being consciously racist.
But every single thing you've posted has done nothing except try to make this about you and your contributions to good whiteness. I mean that in the royal sense too. And, yes, I would've said the same things to all of those people, because the death of Matthew Shepard was not about straight people. It's not that hard… Read more
This has given me all the feels. I am struggling not to cut all of the white people out of my life (kind of hard, given I'm married to a white man) and many of those people are "good white people." They are shocked at racism and racist behavior— so much so they I get links to racist posts on websites because they… Read more
Not talk about it. You can just do the right thing without telling everyone. That's not only for issues of racism, it's also just a general rule. You shouldn't need positive reinforcement for being a decent person. Just be one.
I find most of this essay very powerful. One area I wonder about is where you think good white people feel like they should be rewarded - what should good white people do then? Not delete trolls? Not be outraged? Keep the outrage to themselves? I understand the frustration of people seemingly wanting to be… Read more
This is incredibly thoughtful and beautifully written. Thank you. I live in the US but I am not from here and I never cease to be amazed at the thorough, systematic nature of racism — personal and institutionalized — in this country, accompanied by an equally thorough insistence by most white people that racism is a… Read more
You're white, right?