i am so, so sorry. I exist at near-peak privilege and it took me a long time to learn what #yesallwomen know, and it frightens me to my core that so many people i love endure, rather than enjoy, the society we share. I do what i can as a teacher and a father, but i just wish i could apologize to every person raped,…

I was actually thinking about this today on my jog. I teach sometimes, and I was thinking about how I would try to teach the men in my classes about how sexism feels, as a lived experience, to many women. The idea that your secondary sexual characteristics, habits imputed to you by others, and images repeated ad…

can I suggest dickens? If you haven't read them or haven't read them in a while, most of his novels are jaw-dropping lay amazing and extremely long. Srsly.

Gotta say, that's a pretty good response if they mean it and follow through...

Okay, that is both dumb and disrespectful on a very deep level. I hate that this might seriously mess up her military career because i am sure she would agree that pretending to french kiss anything not a willing human partner is very, very silly, especially while being photographed, and it is also very very sad to…

Shouldn't it be "multiple womens' spit?"

I thought of Ahmadinejad's pathetic statement in New York too! No homosexual people in ____ is just always going to be !bullshit! which is why the whole debate's point (the debate being whether queer folk should have rights/a life/anything at all) is always just to build up one group of people at the expense of…

So pleased and impressed! I'm sure that was an intense experience, but just know that as a result of having made such a brave decision you do in fact probably understand more about being a great trans ally than 99.999% of the population of the world! You're also pretty awesome, not that I know you, but I'm confident…

Good luck and have fun! I am so immensely pleased that anything I've said has been meaningful and helpful. !!

ALL that makes sense. And sadly, it makes so much sense I certainly can't give you advice, which I would love to do in my helpful, mansplainy way, because it sounds like you're pretty self-aware. For me the clothes I wear, whatever sort of body they're supposedly meant to cover, function as play, as assertion of a…

Honestly, the scariest part is the shopping. You go down the wrong aisle and granny will in fact look at you weird, but I find that thrift stores are much Much better both for my wallet and for my personal expression of whoever it is that I am- they're used to the unusual in terms of shoppers, and mostly the workers…

I wear women's clothes most days, not for any identity reasons but because they look better, there are more choices, and (okay, fine) I like knowing that I read cis- while actually wearing gender-inappropriate clothes. All the fun-making convinced me during college that skirts, for instance, while stylish,…

I see your point, but. I mean, you're absolutely right that the idea of the Olympics, and the reality of all those athletes working very, very hard is impressive and good. I am deeply in agreement there. But! I can't feel good about Sochi because even though most folks won't go, Russia will still gain a great deal…

I agree wholeheartedly! It is actually Sochi that has caused me to re-assess my attitude towards the Olympics in general, and certainly the way they've worked and the places they've been held recently. Salt lake, Beijing, both now seem really troubling whereas at the time I just wanted to watch great athletes. The…

I'm sorry to stanch the tears with cynicism, but what makes me cry about these Olympics are the way they're being held in a place where, basically, the horrors never cease. While I try not to ingest enough information about these subjects to actually physically break my heart, the pussy riot jail shenanigans, the…

The stomach size of a 9month old is pretty small still- around 190mls- so getting enough isn't a big problem. Your milk gives all the vitamins and nutrients the child needs at this point, so solids are for practice. And she needs practice! Swallowing solids, holding them and guiding them to the mouth, giving up…

Okay, I will just share my thoughts as a guy, which I am. If a woman I was dating told me she'd never had piv I would want desperately to be cool about it, and probably wouldn't manage, because these would be my thoughts: