Some atoms act like tiny little bar magnets but normally they’re all pointing in different directions so they cancel out. But if you make them all line up by holding another magnet near them they can align and then you get a second magnet. If you then heat the second magnet enough they stop lining up and it isn’t a…

It really seemed to me like the NYT article was suggesting that the slowed metabolism was a simple consequence of the contestants’ having once been very heavy (i.e. *not* because the diet was too extreme, as Jezebel implies).

If there’s any problem it’s that is that phrasing things this way implies a certain submissiveness: ‘don’t be offended, this is just humble old me’s point of view’. In an academic setting bracketing disagreements this way arguably shouldn’t be necessary.

It’s more that the phrase is superfluous than that it’s harmful. The vast majority of statements anyone makes are, of course, matters of opinion. Specifically highlighting that doesn’t really achieve much. It’s not a big deal, obviously.

I would be very surprised if the phrase had anything to do with “members of society who have grown accustomed to being silenced before they so much as make a sound” either, to be fair.

I think the idea that there was a “planning board” possibly overestimates the level of organization in the Yukon’s public poster-making apparatus

Maybe it makes sense in context? Like they had a pre-existing report that involved jokes about him being an older married elected DA and this was some kind of in-joke? I know I’m bending over backwards a bit here, but it would sort of explain the general weirdness of his tone.

Jezebel itself certainly has an editorial line on many issues though. It’s not an absurd question.

It’s an *awful* and *humiliating* joke, but surely you can at least see how it might have seemed funny to the teacher.

I feel like part of the problem is people don’t really understand what healthy BDSM should look like or even accept its existence. When your basic viewpoint is “It’s all just abuse in funny clothes” it is maybe hard to see how big of a deal the things you mention are.

...seriously?

Has that... every happened? Like someone ran out the door because you get *cold sores*? Amazing

I had a very similar problem last year! It got bad enough that I would pace around my apartment almost shaking with fear at times. But now I’m better! Some things that helped me (dunno if they will help you):
-Education is useful. However, *self*-education is not useful because it inevitably turns into a terrifying…

Yeah, but the stigmatizing sores are the actual scary thing, and there is indeed no way to know whether you will ever get them.

The nighttime nannies are the same people as the daytime nannies. Their wage is lower during the night because they will typically be sleeping during that time. $11-13 is also not below the minimum wage.

wait are you saying riff raff’s policy advice was wrong

I think it’s kind of mistake to imagine that when sadists (irrespective of gender) engage in simulated rape fantasies, they are thinking “wow it would be so great to actually rape someone”. Neither is the submissive thinking “wow I hope someone rapes me.”. It is a *fantasy* for both parties and the stimulation come…

Discussion, sure. Keeping the focus on women, sure. But it seems like you aren’t really advocating for a discussion at all, so much as a blanket condemnation of certain - unchosen - sexual preferences independently of how they are pursued. It’s also unclear to me how one could possibly *have* a discussion of this sort…

Again, that line of thinking would make perfect sense if BDSM were strictly about women fantasizing about victimhood and men about aggression. But of course dominant woman/submissive man, dom man/ sub man, dom woman/ sub woman, and non-binary relationships of all imaginable persuasion are also common and cut across…

If your partner *actually is Jewish*, enjoys and is giving you permission to do this within an empowered relationship such that the permission can be given freely, and the play is private or only among other people who have been carefully vetted for comfort level, why? Who is being hurt here?