We noted on our original save a date card where we were registered, but that guests could feel free to go off registry or forego giving a gift if they felt like it. We didn't want gifts to be a barrier to someone coming to celebrate with us.

This! We put gifts under $10 on our registry; mostly cute things that were outdoor BBQ or kitchen related. We knew that there would be many people who couldn't afford to do big expensive gifts, so we tried to pick things that would make them smile when they saw them on the registry.

While that's often the motivation of guests for giving gifts to a couple, it's not the reason a wedding is thrown in the first place. Going into the event expecting that says a lot about the character of the women involved.

He mentioned his girlfriend several times; I'm going to assume he's hetero unless he identifies otherwise.

I agree; people that rude aren't ever going to get it, really. But he could have walked away knowing that he made the proper case.

Agreed. Although I would have stopped much earlier on after the second response from bride #2 "people give envelopes" statement. As someone else said if he'd stopped there and said "thank you again for for inviting us; we had a lovely time." and THEN never spoken to them again, he would have been perfectly gracious.

Yeah, and that exactly why it makes him as bad as they are, though.

As I replied on another thread, the heterosexual privilege in what he said says a lot about "you're lucky it's legal" implies that same-sex marriage isn't an inherent right, that it's a gift from society. Like "we granted this to you, now shut up and quit bitching."

But to go there when mad... very, very uncool, even if he's admitting it later. It's massive heterosexual privilege, especially the way it was said, because it sounds like: "we granted you same-sex marriage, so now you should be grateful for it."

Right about the gift giving, of course. But the homophobia of saying "lucky it's legal" is egregious enough to overshadow the correctness about the gift. That's a slam on all gay couples, not just these rude women.

But the "they should be thankful that it's legal" is a direct slam on them being a gay couple. That's a slam on all same-sex couples, not just these two.

Yeah, he was nice at the beginning; I had to go back and read over the exchange. The bit about their marriage being a sham and they should be thankful it's legal, though - that completely invalidates his correctness about the wedding gift.

The newlyweds were both wrong in their beliefs about what gifts should be, and super-duper rude in discussing their beliefs. Gift bag dude was right, but also kinda rude too, from his first response on.

Thank you. I've never ever had the impulse to do underwear shoots with my friends.

I'd love to get 8+ hours of sleep. If you can tell me how to do that without drugging myself with narcotics every night, I'm all ears.

Where did we hear about her blood alcohol level? Why would it have been tested? She was never arrested, and didn't see any medical professionals until much later, right? How are you getting these numbers?

"sorry if you were offended" = "I'm not sorry I said, it, just sorry that you disagreed. I don't think I was wrong. I just thing you're too sensitive."

regarding # 2 -

Yes, only boys get to drink to the point of stupefaction. Girls should never drink alcoholic drinks ever, from anyone, because they might get raped. No having fun, girls.

Reported as well. Scary shit there.